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*trawberryletter23
writes:heyi'm in a long distance relationship and i suspect my partners cheating on me...many things tell me she is and i will write them as the following,but please,i would appreciate if no one answered me with the same old" oh y'know when you start being suspicious,,thats when its over,or if theres no trust you's are done for???i'm just asking for peoples opinions on the facts i'm bringing forward,they areim always being called other mens names.slip of the tongue she says???she goes out all night with just men because most of her friends are males(she works in a bar)she fell pregnant and we went for the scans together,she was 5 weeks pregnant but i only slept with her 4 wks and 6 weeks ago??she is very secretive with her mobile phoneshe lies about her whereabouts,forgets what shes told me and makes up excuses for her lies??i found a picture of another guys penis on her mobile phone,she said it was old but i dont believe it for a seconddoes anyone think she is cheating or are all these things just 1 big series of coincidences????please help
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reader, strawberryletter23 +, writes (28 November 2009):
strawberryletter23 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your help guys
its really appreciated
i think i'm gonna dump her and move on,i can do much better anyway to be honest
shes punching unbelievably above her weight goin out with me,its like posh and becks but without the kids ykno???
no seriously,i have done things similar in the past in relationships,but i was young and dumb..maybe she still is,but shes 23???
ive recently discovered shes in crippling debt too,and now that i know shes cheated on me i find it kinda funny that karma has came round and popped her head up in her affairs!
there is no way on gods green earth you could ave another mans penis on your phone and not be cheating! you could even tell it was recent coz the dates on it were in nov ths year!!
the fact is,if you dont want caught cheating,you wont get caught,and if you do get caught,you lie your way out of it and shes not even a good liar thats what makes me laugh??
i used to cheat on girls,i lost the love of my life thru bn an ass and cheating...but,thats another story 4 another day
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (25 November 2009):
 It does sound like she likes a lot of attention with guys etc as she goes out with them a lot.
You should just talk to her, and say it's hurting you that she goes out with all these guys etc.
If she kicks off and turns it on you and does the whole ''you don't trust me'' thing. More than likely she is lying to you.
Being secretive with her phone is a sign of cheating, but she may just like her privacy and doesn't want you to not trust her. But it is quite likely she is hiding things from you.
If you don't like a girl who's like this, why don't you go for another girl, someone quiter or who lives nearer.
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reader, FFF5  +, writes (24 November 2009):
SHES A SLUT!!!! GET RID OF HER YOU CAN DO BETTER!! SHE SOUNDS LIKE ME WHEN I WAS 18 AND HAD NO SENSE, BUT THATS HOW SLUTS ARE NOW ISN'T IT? :)
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reader, Trip +, writes (24 November 2009):
Whether we think she is cheating or not isn't the issue. No one here knows your girl personally so we couldn't tell you if she's just flirty or if she's telling the truth. I would talk with her about how you are feeling and see how she reacts. If she gets very defensive I would call Joey Greco.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): honestly, i believe she is cheating and she's not going to admit to it, but it sounds like she is for sure :(
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reader, Frenzotic +, writes (24 November 2009):
 If you slept with her 6 weeks and she's 5 weeks pregnant then that's normal as it can take up to a week for sperm to fertilise an egg.
Having all-male friends on a night out sounds innocent, when she calls you by other men's name is it one of these guys?
The fact she seems to make up excuses for lies and has a picture of another guy's penis on her phone does sound suspicious though. Have you guys set some kind of boundaries? So you know what's allowed/what isn't in your relationship? It does sound like cheating...
Try taking them action first to be clear. If these 'coincidences' persists after that then it's time to call her out and see what she has to say
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reader, rose the relationship solver +, writes (24 November 2009):
 it does sound to me she is and regretably ive done all of that. 3 years ago.....but the thing is its a bad thing to do and you have to sit her down and talk to her if she starts to get wound up leave it till she calms down coz if she is pregnant you dont want to get her uptight. see what she comes out with if you need anything message me ok good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2009): yeah sorry to say but it does sound like shes cheating, she must be...
she has a picture of a penis on her phone, she says its old but i doubt that very much she is obviously lying. being seceretive with her mobile phone is a definate sign of cheating and if shes calling you other men names then yeah she most definatley is cheating, i know this because im a female myself and alot of girls i know are cheating on their fellas with the exact same signs your girlfriend is doing! get rid of her and find someone that deserves you!! good luck
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