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*irl0494
writes:I have a boyfriend, we went out in march, for about 2 months, we didnt go anywhere. we barely even talked.. that didnt work out so i ended it. a few weeks ago i realize i still have feelings for him. and he had feelings for me, and he asked me out. but theres this other guy who ive been flirting with off and on since july. and no matter what i do i cant stop thinking about him. but hes the kind of guy who flirts with every girl. but he makes me feel special and loved.my boyfriend however, is very shy, and barely talks to me... what do i do? i dont know if this other guy likes me or not, i dont want to get hurt, and i dont want to hurt my boyfriend. please help, any opinion is accepted, be as harsh and honest as you need to be.. thanks..
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reader, girl0494 +, writes (8 January 2010):
girl0494 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell the Flirty guy made me feeel amazing. but i know its not love.. i am still with the shy boyfriend right now. its been over a month almost two, and we barely act like we are together.. um you said you use to be shy, so what do i need to do to get him to open up to me and show me some love.. thanks :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 What feelings have you got? We all like to feel special and some people, like the flirty guy, are really good at making us feel special.
But is that love? I don't think so. What do you think? Are you feelings for the flirty guy "I love him and want to be with him until the day I die" or "oh my gosh, he makes me feel so sexy and wanted, I love it".
In a normal healthy relationship, the other is special, and you should make them feel that. That he/she is the best in the world. Apparently you are not getting that with your BF. Might be because he is shy, except he did ask you out. Twice, even after being dumped. Shy guys don't do that. I know, I used to be shy and would never even talk to a girl. End of story. So what is his real problem? Not talking is not always a sign of shyness.
You got to decide what you want. And the honest harsh answer? might be that neither is right for you at the moment. The "shy" guy apparently doesn't know how to behave in a relationship while the flirty guy would make you feel special right up to the point that he makes another girl feel special.
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