A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Helloi love my boyfriend so much and he loves me too, been together for some time and we are very tight, we are always together. its just he isnt very confident with himself, he covers up alot and looks anxious at times, i ask him why he does this and he just said its because he dont like that certain part, i tell him theres nothing wrong with him... he also says things to me like "i dont deserve you" i hate it when he says things like that, he thinks im too good for him, but in my eyes hes perfect and i just wish he could see that, im his first serious relationship and first love but i want him to see that i dont want anyone but him, also hes heard people say im too good for him, could this be why?...i do speak about my exes to him sometimes, i know i shouldnt its just when im drunk, could this be the reason why its denting his confidence? does he think that im comparing my exes to him? i dont wanna lose him but if i carry on i will. i wont ever talk about my exes again to him, its wrong and i feel guilty for doing that because i love him, is this all my fault why he is like this? Did i cause him to be this way? or could it be other reasons why he has low self esteem...please help xx
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (23 November 2009):
try making him feel special.
tell him you love him all of the time..
but him little gifts out of the blue..
tell him he's good in bed...
cuddle him and kiss him when hes down..
and most of all..
let him know that your here for him and you aint going enywhere..
ohh bless the poor guy x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 November 2009):
I would suggest to you that there are other reasons for his self esteem issues. perhaps he's been bullied before, or his home life has been difficult, or he's just a very nervous guy. The main problem is that quite often, guys like this end up dragging their partners down with them. He really does need to address his issues to be honest, because it's not healthy to be in a relationship with someone who is contstantly worrying about being dumped, or not being good enough. I would try talking to him about it if you can. but do remember what I said, if in the future he hasn't changed, you do need to consider your options.
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