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writes:Last year, I transferred to a boarding school and there, I met my eventual best friend, who I have since fallen for. It all started this summer when we were both away from each other and I missed him every day. We talked every single day (text, IM, skype, etc). So recently, all I do is think about him and wish I could be with him all the time. We hang out every day at school and always have sleep overs on the weekends. And we always talk about "snuggling" and sometimes just hang out in his bed or on the couch. I just feel so comfortable around him and feel like I can tell him anything. We are inseparable. We are always together and if we aren't, we are always texting or on our usual 3 hour video chat, which we have every night.So the other weekend, I was at his house and he and his family went to church. So when I woke up, I just hung out in his room and went on the computer. Nosy as I am, I snooped around his history. I found a page where it said some articles about gay rights were sent on an email to him. But then I also found a few naked women photos. I am really confused about if he is straight, bi, or gay. He reminds me of myself so much. I've never had this feeling about a guy before and have had multiple girl friends over the years. We have the same interests, do the same things, and act the same. So what should I do? Should I first mention that I am Bi and see how he reacts? or tell him that I am interested in him? or just not do anything because I value his friendship and would not want to lose him as my best friend?Any suggestions will help as I am really confused.
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reader, TheSoulAsylum  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 If he's been sent things for gay rights, why don't you suggest to do something, like a protest with him? Or send him an email about gay rights, and see how he reacts.
Tell him about your sexuality, but maybe wait a little while for him to think about it. He might not realise you're gay or you like him, so if he knows about your sexuality for a little while before you dropping the second bombshell, it might be easier.
Also though, maybe the emails were spam? I don't know. I think he sounds bi, but I don't know him and I can't judge. Talk to him, otherwise you'll never know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): you should first confirm whether he is bi
if he is your best freind then he wont mind wheter your bi gay or straight it will give him though about his own emotions for you
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