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writes:Hey everyone I'm hoping to get some advice here. I don't want to come off as a teenage drama queen but I have been just miserable lately.I was with my boyfriend for 3 years. He ended up meeting another girl and they became close rather quickly. I trusted my boyfriend and didn't make a big deal about anything. Well, she started to start some problems in my relationship with my boyfriend. She would always be texting him telling him she loved him and would spam his phone with hearts, she would send him sexy pictures of herself, would always flirt with him and throw herself at him, and always acted really disrespectful to me when I was around, etc. There's a lot more to it. To sum it up, my boyfriend and I eventually broke up because of this and all of the problems we were having because of her. I'm just so upset that he couldn't see what she was really trying to do.Now for the second part of the problem. This girl knew my 3 closest friends and got involved with my relationship with them. Several times when I was hanging out with any of them, she would text them and ask them to go hang out with her and not invite me and would tell them that she hated me and said why would anyone want to be friends with me. And now unfortunately, they've started to change and become different around me. Now my boyfriend is still really good friends with her and now even my closest friends are becoming good friends with her and they hardly even talk to me anymore. I don't want to sound stupid but it's like I've lost all of the people I truly cared about. Everyone is all happy together and I'm left out of the crowd. I just don't get how I went from having a boyfriend and really great friends to now having nobody. Why would another girl try so hard to break up my relationship and try to turn my friends on me? What do I do now and where do I go from here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2013): It appears you have been blind sided and I hope your realize that. Pick yourself up and start rebuilding. Your young you get over it. Don't be a push over and if you hear somebody talking behind your back don't be afraid to coral
those caddy bitches and make them pay. Practice your insults and hey did you know your new boyfriend has the crabs? That kind of shit only if they get down and nasty. Good-luck. Move forward.
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reader, Chris2467  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 Alright most people I know have had this problem where a girl like this did this act 1st of all she is obviously jealous of you because you had a good looking boyfriend and really great friends and obviously no one has ever liked her so she decided to sabotage your relationship to show you how she felt like. So just remind your friends about the one who was there when they needed you and remind your ex that you're the one he fell in love with not because of some sexy photos and stupid hearts on her phone but because of your personality.
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reader, Tenderlovingcare  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 Your situation must be hard. I understand the fact that you probably feel lost because all of these people who were your close friends have now become distant with you. You say this girl said something to them about disliking you. If they have chosen to listen to her and drop a friend that they were close with before, then they are not your true friends. You don't need people like that and trust me you will find you're closest friends soon enough. I can count my friends on one hand because I don't believe in having friends that would happily drop you because of someone elses opinion of you.
be strong, be happy :)
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