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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes: I had this major crush on this guy at work and so we began to talk and he seemed interested in me so we exchanged numbers. Admittedly, I did most of the texting. He hardly texted me. One day he said he lost my number and would need it again at one point. One month later I give him my number again and that same night I got a text from a random number saying how they saw me at work and thought I was pretty. He said he got my number from a "mutual friend" so the guy I was crushing on gave my number to another co worker. Also, I found out that he spilled the beans about a secret I told him. I saw him the following week and he completely avoided me. Whenever he saw me close by he would rather walk around the whole building just to not run into me. I saw him 2 weeks ago and completely ignored him too. Now he walks by me but doesn't say anything. He looks away from me like I don't even exist. My question is, shouldn't I be the one offended? I was willing to just stop and act like nothing happened and say hello today but he avoids me like a plague and makes things awkward. I really want to find out what his problem is, should I confront him or just avoid him?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 It sounds like he was never interested in you, the fact that he hardly ever text you was clear he wasnt into you. Then he finds out that someone else at work likes you so he saw his chance to get rid of you and pass you off onto someone else - clearly he didnt feel comfortable with you having a massive crush on him and he wanted you to leave him alone, hence why he gave the other co-worker your number so you could focus on him.
I'd just write this off as a bad experience and move on, there is no point in confronting him because he'll just remain pretty quiet and wont really say much. He doesnt like you, he doesnt have a crush on you - your feelings are not reciprocated so just move on. He was trying to palm you off onto someone else and has no interest in speaking to you anymore, he probably thinks you still have a crush on him so he doesnt want to encourage any feelings you might still have, hence why he is avoiding you.
Leave him alone, let your feelings for him fade away and move on. And next time when you are doing all the texting make sure you spot this quickly and stop wasting your time on someone who is not into you.
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reader, lilmishap +, writes (7 May 2013):
he has his chance he blew it. The more you chase the more his ego grows. He may well be telling ppl you'obsessed' . remove his number from your phone. Be civil. No matter how much you want to pull him up on his behaviour. DONT. bite your tongue. He is a loser who lost out. repeat several times a day. As the saying goes ' dont throw good money after bad' best of luck
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