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writes:Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are both 23. I love him so much before. He treated me like a princess I guess. But then its just my thought, not reality. He flirted with some girls and got treatment with his friends, I mean he got oral sex when massaging. I feel so hurt and he often lied to me.Last year I found out what was happening and I can hardly believe in him. I always got worry and sad to be cheated again. I feel I'm useless. He promised that he won't do the same again and I think he just changed. He become more serious in earning money and built serious relationship with me. If I'm true about this.Now more or least I can hardly respect him as a man or as my boyfriend honestly. He's now working in a company and now trying to get an exam to become an insurance agent. Seriously, I just don't like it. I'm raised in a wealthy and happy family and I'm worry that he would probably been known as " annoying" person if he become that agent. I feel that what he promised to me, marry in next 2 years and built a happy family wouldn't realized as he's got no direction in his life and I'm trauma of what he did to me before.I don't know what to do anymore.. Don't get me wrong for thinking like this. I love him but I keep worrying everyday and its so tiring. Please don't tell me to leave him as I think I can't. My parents doesn't know anything about what he did to me and they love him.Please tell me what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2013): Sometimes I really want to tell all of this to my mom. But I don't want to make my parents worry about me. I don't want they sad because of my problem. I act like nothing happens and keep it in my mind myself. I just got so tired and I don't feel any passion of life anymore.
All I want is to forget this problems. I know he's really want to change and be better, but we have many differences. It hurts more after I know my friends know about my problem that he lied to me and I can do nothing.
I want to speak out my problem but I don't know who I can trust, and I don't want to make my parent sad.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 tell your parents what he did to you, that should make it easier to make a choice.
your choice is YOURS not your parents.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (7 May 2013):
 Hi
You came here to ask for advise but tell use not to advise you to leave him?
I dont think the problem is just the oral sex. You are actually exbarrased about him being an insurance agent.
You need to decide what is more important to you. I am not underplaying the oral sex, yes you were hurt but I also think you are embarrassed by what your friends and family will say about his job as you found it important to mention you come from a wealthy problem. If the issue was the oral sex alone, your family wealth has no relevance to him being unfaithful to you.
If you love him, you need to accept him and appreciate he is making an honest living. May not be your ideal job but its a good job.
You weigh the benefits, and decide what is important to you.
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