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female
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36-40,
*lite123
writes:My boyfriend of just under 3 years is a completely different person than when I met him. He has completely quit drinking because it was ruining his life, he quit smoking and he works out every day. He cuddles me and cooks me dinner and has a very lucrative job and seems to be happy. He has been this way for about 1 year. (He was always a cuddler and cooked for me it's the rest that he now does. Long story short..... I catch him on lies or situations he just doesn't tell me. Just recently:1. When out of town for work and call my friends from college to hang out and didn't tell me for 3 days. My friends are actually a male and female couple and they were not his friends before he knew me.2. He never seems to have money and he had lied about overdue bills in the past.3. I have been asking him how his college courses have been going since he is now 30 and taking a second stab at his education. He only had 4 classes left the first time he quit. He dropped one class and didn't tell me and hasn't written his final paper for the other. I finally questioned him so much that he confessed.We have been talking about marriage. We are both 30 and have professional careers. What should I do? I know he tries his best to tell me the truth but it seems that every few months something pops up.
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reader, elite123 +, writes (7 May 2013):
elite123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for pointed that out. I am very hard on him about everything. It is just my nature. It is true that rulers make bad lovers! Thank you for your insight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2013): I have caught my husband in lies too. When I brought it to his attention, he answered me with this question, "Have you ever lied?" I thought about it and indeed, I have lied too. Your boyfriend is probably hiding something from you, and he doesn't want to explain. Whatever he did, he knows that you won't like it. Nobody is perfect. I think you should give him a little freedom to make a few mistakes. In the end, he will love you more.
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