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writes:I'm in agony.I was involved with a guy and we had sex twice and after that he started being distant and avoiding me, so as time went I tried to let go and forget about him, which was really hard for me to do.When we started dating he told me he's separated with his fiancé , and I think it's because she cheated on him and she wants nothing to do with him....he's still crying over her and bitter about the separation-although he wouldn't say it, I can tell by the things he does or say.And just when I started minding my own business he started calling me, and acts as if he's my boyfriend. And because I have a very soft spot for him, I would respond when he tells me he loves and misses me. We have started sleeping together again. Now this is where the problem is, he never tells me he wants a serious or a long-term relationship with me and he's very casual about us, and he can be sometimes consistent on calling me, and all often a sudden be silent, and after a while he would call and I have actually got used to the routine. He tells me he's never loved a woman like he loves me and that's he keeps coming back to me even when he's trying so hard to resist.Should this girl decide to get back with him, I know I will be left like I never existed. How do I solve this, do I confront him or just go with the flow?Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (8 May 2013):
 Well if you know you are being used and will be left when someone else he likes more comes along, it's your call whether or not to stay for the sex.
Because he's using you for sex nothing more.
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (8 May 2013):
 Sorry but you sound like you are his FWB. He is still out there playing the field, he is not yours and the possiblity of him being anything more than an FWB is very slight.
So either you suck it up and carry on with this arrangement or tell him that you need exclusivity, and if he cannot give that to you, then move on with your life.
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reader, Keeley345  +, writes (8 May 2013):
What do YOU want from the relationship? Is it casual sex you're looking for or a serious relationship? To be honest, he's using you. He's not over his ex but seeks affection and sex from you, this makes you a rebound girl nothing more. My advice to you is have some self respect. Are you that desperate for this guy to allow him to have sex with you but no commitment? If it's just sex you're after, then carry on as you are. But if it's a relationship with him you're after, good luck because you'll be waiting for a long time for that. There are plenty of guys out there who are single, over their ex's and looking for new romance. You're wasting your time with this guy and will risk letting a potential romance with someone else go and for what? Crumbs from a guy still hooked on his ex? Not lekker!
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