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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:In 2001, I lost my heart to 15 years teenager and to whom I got married March this year. She has been living with me and my parents since December 2001 and my parents considered her daughter. I think this space would turn minute if start describing how pretty and nice she is and people consider me lucky to have her . After our graduation two years back, we started working in my dad company in same position and did wonders to bring business for our company . I have to admit that she is touch smarter than me when it comes to work. But she works 12 hours to make sure we go miles and in the process my wife now looks tired and I am concerned that this tough corporate world would have adverse effects on her health. Due to our work nature, we are together 24/7 and make love during launch breaks or any other breaks come along but still she needs to cut off to manageable level. My parents and I have talked to her several times to not burn out herself so much but she said that she was doing it to expend her own family’s business (She considers my mom and dad her parents) and will get wasted doing nothing sitting at home. Before this hectic corporate world, when we were students, we would have sports car race on every weekend in outskirts of city and it would be great fun. I miss all those golden days and get the feelings that in search of going up, we are missing on some quality times that we are having right now? How can I pursue her to bring all it to manageable level? I am keeling looking forward to have you guys helping me on this. Thanks ! Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (21 October 2011):
 What a kind caring husband you are. And you realise that if your wife's health breaks down then she will not be able to do anything for a while. And while you support her neither will you be able to give as much to the business. The two of you need to do some activities that relax and renew you and are separate from the business.
First get a health check - a very thorough heath check with blood tests for any deficiency. For instance if a woman fails to get enough of the right nutrition then her haemogloblin levels can drop. leading to such a woman feeling exhasusted too often. Easily fixed, once the blood test reveals what is the deficiency. Getting key employees checked by a Doctor is just good corporate sense. The two of you contribute do much to the efficiency of the business. As key personnel this is just prudent planning on your part.
In effect the two of you need to take a break. Together.
And I am talking a holiday where you ensure an emphasis on relaxation. Not manic activity that could result in you both being more exhausted than before the start of the holiday. So I am thinking of a holiday that includes a day spa or even longer.
Please consider booking a holiday in a spa retreat. One where there is an emphasis on relaxing and renewing who you are.
Where the two of you will eat healthy meals, be encouraged to get enough sleep, and enjoy pampering and sensual experiences together every step of the way.
The spa should make you turn off your mobile phones.
Tell your parents how important it is that your wife take some time to renew her spirit. So a minimum of 2 days at the spa. Together. There you will also eat healthy and be pampered.
Try to attend every treatment as a couple. So when you get a one hour foot massage, then so should she. When she gets her back massaged then so should you, laying on adjacent massage tables.
You are no use to other people if you are not good first and foremost to yourselves. And then to each other. Same applies to your wife.
Spa in your country of Austria
http://www.weissesroessl.at/en-november-wellness-spa-holidays-austria.htm
Spa in France
France
http://www.ayushspa.com/ayush-wellness-spa-full-and-half-day-packages.php
Spa in Lago d’ Garda in Italy
http://www.hotelprincipedilazise.com/en/home.html
And the idea that you only have time to grab a "quick" break for sex must stop. This is unacceptable. and will not give the two of you the relaxation you both deserve.
Your words were:
"we are together 24/7 and make love during lunch breaks or any other breaks come along"
if the only sex you are enjoying is in between lunch breaks or any other breaks that some along then this is not love this is just sex. Your wife and you bother deserve much better than this.
Start finding the time, on return from your holiday, to schedule a minimum of two hours at least once a week if not more, when the only thing on your minds should be seriously seriously sensual foreplay.
Talk to your parents and explain how important it is that you give your wife the time and support to renew herself with a break away with you. Since they benefit from the work you both put into the business then your parents may even see the value in helping pay for this little break. if you are willing to accept this help.
But anyway you look at it you must ensure that yoru wife gets some extra pampering and some extra loving. Tell her by your actions and your words just how very important she is to you.
when you get back from your little holiday (if you see the value in this suggestion) then try to examine whether the two of you are working too many hours? or make it easier on your wife by employing a person to clean the home, to give your wife more time.
And start scheduling a date together every week
Then look at the hours you are working. A maximum of 10 hours a day might be start. After you and your wife find that you can cope with that then employ a temporary part time employee to assist you and your wife at 15 hours a week.
Then cut you and your wife's hours back to 9 hours a day each. Maximum. That is still 45 hours Monday to Friday. More than enough.
Ensure that lunch breaks are for sitting down and quietly enjoying a nice healthy lunch. And talking and relaxing.
Also consider joining a gym together and allow two or three hours there one a week or three one hour visits during the week.
Good luck with the fun you are both going to have together.
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