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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I just hate the fact that my bf is flirtacious to other girls,he is 22 now...and thats very immature,he admitted to having an ego problem ..that it kind of boosts his ego!his friends challege him at times if he could talk up/get the no. of a girl...i knew him well before we started going out.and i didnt bother much about his way of being before...he's not a player but does this flirting around especially online ,now he knows after i communicated my feelings that i cant stand it!..after many fights that we had because of this..:( i have lost that pure happiness i had in this relationship.he loves me a lot ,committed to marry me and has a permanant tattoo of my initial (beginning letter of my name ) on his hand ..i love him too have lost my viginity to him,in all other ways he's caring and affectionate,but the worst part is ..he doesnt call me those sweet things he used to .and says i dont have to flirt with you ,you are my love ...and it hurts me to no end that he flirts for the sake of winning bets...he would never cheat on me for sure though.i just cant STAND this relationship! his taking me for granted is driving me to the wall..and at the same time i know that he loves me but doesnt show it much :( he says so too..that he is not good at expressing...but i feel so hurt!now he corrected his ways and does not flirt ..but he told me "you were okay with it before " and that also HURT me cos ...these things are unsaid...its part of being faithful.obviously i dont have to make up a rule book for him!plus there's no fun in getting THAT attention and faithful,crazy love after having ASKED for it!!!!WTH?! but i have heard that men generally are like this...and do things based on what their girl accepts/opposes..isnt that supposed to be inbuilt in him?whichever girl it is he is committed to,isnt he supposed to have his own rules and borderlines???why does one have to TELL!i feel soo stuck ..i just cant move!i cant breakup n live with knowing that he loves me :( and i WILL regret it forever :( even though he is how i really want him to be..and changed his ways ,i still cant get over it!i feel infuriated ...want to make him super jealous and hurt him like how he hurt me! what should i do to make him realise the hurt and pain...i know for sure that this guy will feel horrific if i flirt around !!!how do i do that???
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (22 October 2011):
 Deep down you know the answer here. You are unhappy and life is too short to be unhappy. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): “:( i have lost that pure happiness i had in this relationship.”
It is my opinion that when you lose this in a relationship it's time either to take a break or to end it. I would try taking a break from him and tell him the reasons why- you're sick of his constant flirtations and his lack of expression of his love for you. Maybe he will realize what he is losing and man up and stop acting like such a jerk.
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