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36-40,
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writes:Hi I have a question about a guy I met online. We met on a dating site and really hit it off he lives in another state but we kept talking exchanged emails and after about 6 months phone numbers We eventually decided to meet I was so crazy about him and we had so much in common he said he was crazy about me too. Anyways he comes visits things go great we hit it off. Everything was perfect I know people may think if wrong of me but things got hot and heavy and we slept together the thing is he couldn't perform he couldn't get an erection he told me that it only happened with me that it never happened before but I was ok with it because I really like the guy for him not sex. And he seemed ok with that anyways when he got back to his home he started acting more distant and when I brought it up he said sorry. Then I noticed that he was chatting with others girls online when he said he was working and had no time to talk. This upset me because all I wanted was a hello. Anyways I just got hurt about this and felt ignored so I dumped him and he said ok and said it was better and agreed with me but now he calls me like every break he has at work and text me all day sends me sweet messages. I'm confused ? What the heck just happened why did he not want me when I was his girl but now he wants me ? Any input would help thanks .
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): You don't realize what you have until its gone, you want what you dont have, It takes some distance and time apart to cherish what you truly have, ...so many ways to put this.
Its up to you now if you still have feelings for him or not and if you can get over the fact that he was talking with other girls. I say, if you have strong feelings for him, forgive him a little bit. Seems like he is really interested in you now. You can have him and he is ready for you now.
Think about what you want and realize people do make mistakes.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 October 2011):
 It's just a guess here but often people want what they can't have. And then there's the whole "men love a good chase" thought.
OTOH, he could just be playing games with you.
Not sure how far apart you two are but if you are within say a 3 or 4 hour drive then six months to meet IRL after meeting online on a dating site is not a really great sign.
Men that are truly interested will move heaven and earth to meet and see you....I am in a (soon to be ending LDR) and we are 2 hours apart (by car) and we will make the trip DAILY as needed to be together at this point... in the beginning he changed all his schedules to be with me...gave up gaming etc.. to be with me...even before he knew he was in love...
I know that there are folks that will tell you that the reason he's not interested is that you slept with him, but I'm not sure that's always the case.
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