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writes:I have been dating a man for a few weeks now, everything is good and this isnt really a complaint, but he cant ejaculate through sex, blow jobs, handjobs...you name it, no girl has ever made him ejaculate!He is 29, in good health, doesnt take medication, exercises, doesnt smoke, doesnt drink (he doesnt like the taste of alcohol so never drinks)....physically there seems to be no reason why he cant! We have discussed it as obviously he can go on forever and it becomes tiring/painful for me so I did ask about it, he said that he has problems with sensitivity, even when he masturbates he says he can take hours. I'm just wondering how common this is? And does anyone have any ideas, if it is really due to sensitivty, what I could do to get him to ejaculate? I like a challenge, but I dont know whether this is a step too far!
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (21 October 2011):
 Does he masturbate to porn? Certain kinds of stimulation can prevent someone from the real thing because their minds get psychologically comfortable with that certain stimulation and anything else, for example a real act, is an adjustment for them and can take time to get used to the real act. I would def say his problem is more than likely psychological.
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reader, eek +, writes (21 October 2011):
 I totally agree with LustyLisa i had the same problem your bf is having now and it is down to masturbating too hard. (i used to go at it so hard sometimes my skin would split and bleed) (Im more sensible now)
If he stops masturbating for a month or so he will start to gain more feeling in his penis and then will appreciate normal sex more. Also try to make sure he is relaxed before you have sex as if he is worrying about performing he will get a mental block and again wont be able to cum.
Hope That helps.
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reader, LustyLisa  +, writes (21 October 2011):
He's probubly gotten himself so accustomed to heavy pressure and grip during masterbation that he's conditioned himself. He really needs to lay off the masterbation for a few weeks, maybe even a couple of months to determine if he's penis will return to a more sensitive state. There is a small possibility that he has caused nerve damage but sensitivity can come back if he treats his member more gently in the future. If sensitivity doesn't return, it may be psychological or a deeper neurological matter that has nothing to do with you and your abilities.
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reader, ahlanwasahlan  +, writes (21 October 2011):
 "even when he masturbates he says he can take hours"
If he still can ejaculate, as it seems likely according to that reference, I'd say that it could be entirely psychological. Maybe some past experiences, maybe he gets distracted... etc, etc. There could be a few reasons.
Problems with sensitivity? If it is physical and he knows exactly what could cause the problem then in all cases I would recommend consulting a doctor, since all of these instances could be individual.
However logically thinking, I would say that there could be no possible health reasons other than psychological and those related to his nervous system (i.e sensitivity problems)
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