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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I feel trapped in my life with my dysfunctional family treating me badly. My 3 siblings have shunned me and always scheme things to get me in trouble. I'm always being yelled at and blamed for things that I didnt do wrong. I'm always being pulled into their drama and they are very combative. They are always looking for something to argue about. They do it to me all the time, and they do it to each other! They are girls (obviously lol). Together they joined to make my life a living hell. They are trying to find a way to get me fired from my job. They are willing to lie to get me fired! They manipulated people to hate me by playing the victim, they ruined my relationship with the only person i cared about, and they won't stop making nasty comments about me daily. I don't know what to do? I don't want to reconcile because the cycle with them is too dysfunctional and extremely unhealthy. They are catty and they like to manipulate people. If you dont do something they get mad and hold it against you until you submit to their demands. Basically, they want to make you feel weak and controlled. My final question is: if they treat me this badly, should I just cut them out of my life forever? They are very toxic people and things will never get better.I need some advice or words of encouragement on how I can move past this.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 October 2011):
 If your family mistreats you and makes you unhappy and are toxic you have every right to cut them out of your life.
My bf does NOT speak to his family at all.
just because they are blood related does not mean you owe them anything (does NOT apply to minor children you have birthed btw)
In my circle of friends we say we have RELATIVES (people we are related to by blood) and FAMILY (the people we choose to surround ourselves with for holidays and important events)... FAMILY is not always about blood.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2011): Tell them what is happening and why, then cut them out. You may even have to try and move for a fresh start if possible. You need a breath of fresh air. They are bad and will never change.
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