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writes:My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for almost a year now. I originally broke up with him because I thought it was better for myself, long behold it wasn't. We dated for almost three years, and we had a very strong connection. There have been times where I've ignored him for months on end but, we've still managed to keep in touch after this long. Regardless, he mentioned to me one night that I need to make things up to him. I don't know what he wants me to do, to do that. I've changed alot about myself since the time being of us together not for him but, for myself. I've finally been able to realize what 've done wrong in our relationship. I've moved on with my life and am doing great but, there is still one aspect missing and that's him. I don't sulk, or think about him often but it's always in the back of my mind. I know he still cares, because he's mentioned it before. I don't want to loose him but, I don't know how show him I'm diffrent and how to make things up to him. How can I show him I still care?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 November 2011):
I'm afraid I agree with the post below. What he's really saying when he says 'you need to make things up to him', is that he wants you to put sex on a plate. There's not even any real guarantee that he'll come back. In fact, whatever you say, there's no real guarantee that he does care about you.
I think you may have made changes that are better for your own life, and that's great. But I think if you go back to what you had with him, you'll only wind up feeling the same way or you'll wind up feeling hurt.
I also wonder whether he's not spied an opportunity to hurt you back. Truth is, if he wanted to work it out, he'd be working with you to make this happen. But he's not said that, he's just said you need to make it up him. And I think we all know that really means.
Perhaps you need to continue moving on, rather than looking to the past that ultimately went wrong.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 November 2011):
 The correct phrase is "lo, and behold".....
The operative portion of your submittal is this one: "...he mentioned to me one night that I need to make things up to him...." .... IF you substitute "put out" for "make things up to him"......
Is that clear enough?
Good luck....
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