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writes:I'm a 22 year old college student and I never want sex. I have a wonderful fiance who is starting to feel unattractive because of how little I want/need sex. :( When we do have sex, it's amazing, so I'm thinking the issue is on my part. Is there something wrong with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2011): Low sex drive/libido to you may be termed 'asexual' meaning you are not driven by it and it is not even a factor to having a loving relationship.
Often people mistake lust and love as one in the same thing and clearly they are not.
I think you are fortunate to have a loving partner that is willing to take the time to get you to a state of arousal before being so intimate with you, you experience multiple orgasms.
Maybe that is just your norm. Its your body so its really not fair or 100% useful advice we can give.
It could be medical, hormonal,or even psychological.
Check out this link. I'd think it would be quite helpful.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/lackingsexdrive.htm
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 I guess it is what it is. If you never want sex with him then there is no sexual attraction. I guess if the sex is amazing when you have it perhaps you could make an effort. I have been in this position before and it can build resentment on his behalf. This is especially true if he has an average sex drive and a partner who is uninterested.
I compare it to this, he might not like the concept that every time there is a chance for sex, he has to bring it up or convince you to get in the mood. Women might look at it this way, there is a new restaurant you really want to go to. You get dressed up, new outfit and hair style. You arrive at the restaurant, sit down, waiter comes over and offers menus. You take yours and your boyfriend says, no thanks, I'm not hungry. It kind of sucks the excitement out of the dinner.
You might have to work at raising your interest level.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (8 November 2011):
If you are taking any medications regularly (including a contraceptive pill), your limited libido may be a side effect of the medication.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011): Since the two of you appear to have no reservations about premarital sex, it does strike me as strange that you would not have a desire to have sex on a fairly regular basis. Sexual satisfaction is generally a very important factor of a healthy intimate relationship. In fact, those who are not satisfied with their sexual lives are more likely to look outside of marriage for sex. Before the two of you get married it would probably be wise to address this issue and whether it is of concern to either of you. If this is something that is very important to your significant other and it is not very important for you, that may be a reason to not go through with a marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011): **OP**Little is like...I never want to have sex. We still have sex maybe twice a week or so, but he always has to initiate it, and sometimes takes a while for me to get 'wet'. So he feels like I'm not attracted to him or something. I do orgasm multiple times when we do have sex.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (7 November 2011):
 How little is "little?" Do you orgasm every time (and easily)? Do you feel attractive to your fiancée?
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