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writes:im a gay guy who is 19 years old and i have no problem talking to people and making friends i am one of the most outgoing people you will ever meet, im easy to get along with and im around people 24/7. i have no issues texting guys or talking to them online. even if a guy is just a friend i can talk to them easily and be around them whenever. however sometimes the friends ask me to meet them etc You know, where im going with this and if im going to meet a guy i have serious uncontrolable shaking issues. even if i know who the guy is and i know he wont hurt me i shake and im not just talking my hands shaking im talking my whole body tightens up and physically shakes as if i am freezing, when two seconds earlier im fine. i am too scared to meet guys from the internet that i speak to so this is happening when im going to meet guys i already know. Literally i can be texting a guy i know and as soon as he says come see me..or im outside i start to shake and i cant stop.its a horrible feeling i get a feeling in my chest and then i keep shaking until im there and about 5 minutes into meeting the guy i start to calm down. why is this happening to me, i know its not natural and everyone ive spoke to do not do that. if you have found a solution to this please contact me. ps: most of the guys i go to meet are meant to be straight, and im keeping it a secret could this have something to do with it. please help me
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 It's a sub conscience fear of some sort. You're literally fearing something. Whether it's what you WANT to happen or what you HOPE WON'T happen only you know. You need to relax some how. Stop worrying about what you think may or may not happen once you're together... and just go with the flow. I know this is hard to do... but it's something that you yourself have to figure out. As CandidCally points out - you might need professional help in identifying what it is... but I'll get you can do it on your own. You've already recognized you have anxiety issues. You just have to identify what you're so anxious about and resolve that problem.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (7 November 2011):
It sounds like anxiety or even a panic attack.
You may want to research psychiatrists in your area and make an appointment to see one who is qualified to assist you with the unique issues and anxiety you are experiencing as a gay male who is seeing 'straight' men.
A psychiatrist can determine whether a counselor can assist you by providing sessions or cognitive behavioral therapy, and also is able to prescribe anti-anxiety medications if he/she feels that would be the best treatment route for you.
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