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writes:Gentlemen of DC, when you're in a relationship with someone new, is having sex with them still a special experience even if you've had previous girlfriends? Apologies if this comes across as a rather daft question - I'm feeling a bit insecure about the fact that my boyfriend's done it before when I'm still a virgin. I'm wondering if our first time together will mean anything to him, or not because sex will be nothing new...Thanks a lot in advance for any replies! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): Yes, for me yes.
For my wife, yes, it was special for her.
And, for both of us, it has gotten more special through the years.
She had a lot of sexual partners before me, buku numbers, but not a good emotional relationship with any of them, sexually abused as a child, she didn't expect any different, and thought that was what life was like.
She has told me, and I believe her because it took her years to get to that point with me, that sex is more special and makes her feel better than at any point in her life with anyone....and that continues at nearly 50 years of age after 20 years.
It's not the act, it is what emotionally underlies the act that makes it special, or makes it unspecial.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (8 November 2011):
Definately. When emotions are involved, each person is totally unique and special.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 Absolutely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): My fiance had tons of sexual partners before me (acted out sexually due to being sexually assaulted as a child).. I was his first real relationship and before me he said he never considered sex very emotional but now it means more to him than it ever has and he enjoys it more than he ever has. Previous partners makes no difference. You are new to him.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 To me each first time you have with someone is just as special if not more now then losing my virginity. To be honest he may have more meaning to it then you think. He won't be all caught up in the fact that it is the first time so it leaves more time to really appreciate the feelings involved.
I am currently involved with a girl who is a virgin and I know that if we stay together we will end up having sex. It might just be me but with it not being my first time I can really focus on it being a great first experience for her. I feel that it is my responsibility to do so. What will mean so much more is being able to experience her reaction to everything that is going on. That means so much more to me.
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