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*shashash123
writes:hi.. Ok.. I am a light skinned black woman who has always had issues with her hair. From my complextion you would assume i would have managable hair but i dont. It doesnt grow, and its always looked rubbish. So i add a big lod afro hair piece and it looks so nice and natural! It works very well and as i live alone i dont really mind that i have to take it off at night.However my problem is this. I have just met a guy and, becase my hair looks so real, im pretty confident he thinks its real. Im so scared about showing him my real hair. I feel like iv been falsly advertising myself. He keeps going on about how beautiful i am.. but without my hair piece, i look completely diffrent! Hes staying over tomorrow and im really dreding the embarrassment. I think i may sleep in the hair piece tomorrow but then this just prolongs the lie!. what if he doesnt fancy me? how should i deal with this? tell him before i take it off? wake up early and put it on? All black woman who have great weaves im sure must know where im coming from! Any advice?? Reply to this Question
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 I agree, it's not false advertising. You don't like what you have to work with naturally, so you added something to it. Isn't that what most women are doing with make up? Many women look completely different without their make up on, yet their men don't think twice about it.
I think you should have a little fun with letting him know you wear a hair piece. If you have another one, or could afford getting another one even if it's a cheaper piece, wear that when you see him. He'll see that you can change up your style but still look like you. It will be a way for you to tell him without feeling self conscious.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (8 November 2011):
 90% of the black women I'm friends with all wear weaves. The men they date could care less about their hair piece. What they do like about it is that you can switch up your weave and have a totally different look the next week. It's so versatile! Plus you shell out some money to look beautiful on a daily basis. He should appreciate that.
I'd go ahead and sleep without your weave. He most likely won't say anything. If he does and makes a big deal of it, then he's not worth your time.
It's not false advertisement, you're just enhancing your beauty.
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