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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for just over half a year now and we have become pretty attatched to each other. The big "L word" has been mentioned. However, I think emotions are stronger on his side. A few months back I met another guy and I felt an instant click with him. We text occassionaly and met at a party a few weekends back. Again, I felt this connection with him. I have never felt so strongly inclined towards someone before. I know it may sounds silly, but I possibly see a future with this guy - a future that I am unsure of with my current boyfriend. I feel guilty having an emotional attatchment to another man, even though nothing has even happened between us. My boyfriend would be really upset to find this out and I don't want to hurt him. Yet I can't shake these feelings. What do I do?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 November 2011):
 The honeymoon phase of this relationship is over. It's been a great 6 months, but this relationship has tun it's course.
Not seeing a future together is a valid reason to reason to break up with him.
Next time when you're together just break the news to him. Tell him that you've had a wonderful 6 months but you just don't see this relationship turning into anything long term. Also that you feel that you're better off going back to friends. There's no need to mention the other guy.
You can't expect him to be friends with you right after you dump him, but give it time and he may come back around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis comments are proving very insightful. Thank you! I'm not sure how to approach the conversation with my boyfriend though. He has never done any wrong by me and I feel like I need a vaild reason behind breaking up. I would also wish to remain friends with him, as we were before dating, if possible. We share a lot of mutual friends and things would be best if it were a "healthy", "no hard feelings" breakup. However, I know he would be terribly upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2011): I wouldn't make any rash decision just yet, if at all. I don't know how many times I have felt that exact same way about a guy I just met and he turned out to be not that great.
Deal with your boyfriend first. That's more important. Forget about this guy for a minute and figure out first if you want to be with your boyfriend or not. If not then take the right steps to break it off. Give yourself time to heal and if this guy is meant to be in your life he will still be around when the time is right and you are ready to give another guy a go.
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