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writes:i really need some help, my relationship is really loosing its spark and i don't know what to do, i love my boyfriend so much and i cant walk away from everything we have together, but its just i get annoyed so easy and i pick little petty arguments about nothing and then later regret it, i know i love my boyfriend so so so much and we have spoken about this, and we said we would do different things, we have started doing different things and we dont argue about anything when we're out but when we're sat in each others houses it all starts off again!hes starting to get careless, as if he thinks now we have been together for a while, he doesnt need to try to have me, if that makes sense, he doesnt bother with doing special things anymore and its all just the same thing. i honestly dont know what to do, ive tried everything i can think of... help :(
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 May 2011):
 If you're picking arguments for silly things then it's an indication that something is bothering you. It's not going away because neither of you are dealing with the real issues. Your post is really short, so it's hard to see what is going on.1. You love him - Are you worried he doesn't love you?2. You get annoyed easily - Why, do you have anger issues, is this something to do with your father or are you angry at all men?3. You pick petty arguments - Why? Maybe they are not so petty and it's something important to you.4. Sat in each others houses - Maybe your bored with staying in and are looking for proper excitement in your relationship.5. Careless boyfriend - You need special stuff to make you feel good. Do you buy or take him anywhere special? In the 21st century men also want to be treated nice. If you need more romance, why just not ask him instead of lashing out and trying to hurt him. Sounds like you have a problem with communication.Promising to be nice to each other isn't working. You two are not communicating how you really feel and what is bothering you. It might even be the case that you may love him, but your young and you might want the freedom of being single again. Be honest with yourself and look in your heart, you know why your fighting and why things are going wrong.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (6 May 2011):
 Start acting like him, not as a payback, but to mirror him so he may gain some insight. You though may actually feel more relaxed and not so "give me, give me" if you act laid back, it may be a great relief for you to learn that, yes, indeed, we're all on the bus, just a slob like one of us.
Play tree house for a week or three. Bring comic books and pizza.
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