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*iffanychanel
writes:My bf and I have been together 1 year in Sept 07. I have two children from a previous marriage. My bf and I are now expecting our first baby together in July. We moved to this new house almost a year ago and he has become influenced by his new best friend. He spends a ridiculus amount of time with him. His bf is very well of and now they are in business together. His bf is the type to cheat on his gf whenever he gets the chance because he thinks he has it all. So recently I caught by bf talking to other girls through text message. He goes out till all hours of the night, comes home drunk and most of the time will not answer my calls or text when its late. So I confronted him about this and he says he talks to other girls because it makes him feel good. He says Im just a bitch because I constantly bug him and want to know what hes doing. But in all reality I just care about him and love him to pieces. He says hes never cheated on me, and I sould be lucky because I am the only girl he has never cheated on. My kids adore him and we do have our "good days". Should I be worried? Do you think he has cheated on me? I feel so sick inside. Not only does this affect me but the doc told me on friday that I am having some complications with the baby so as little stress as possible is needed. Please help me here...I have no one to talk to and need some good advice.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 In business , sometimes , they have to entertain clients or take care of their clients . They may go to those places where there are girls .
You can accept it at face value , if he said he did not cheat on you , You cannot stop him from going there or you will have a big fight and your marriage may break up.It is not good for your health .
Sometimes , in marriage , you have to close one eye and pretend not to see as long as he does his duty as your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Hi hunny
Annalisa has got it nailed, Have you got any friends sweetheart someone to talk to, This will not do you anygood at all.
His b/f has pulled him into a life that is superficial, His life with you is the truth for him and now he thinks he is the king of the bloody road eh! You love him so much this must be so hard hunny, I had this kind of thing happen in my last pregnacy in the end I had to think of me and my 2 boys as I just got to the point that my husband was acting like another child when he was pissed, So I just pretended in my head that he was not at that time part of my life as in truth he wasnt he only came home to sleep it off, It so very difficult love the more you try to explain the more they will think you are having ago and then you get the abuse verbal in your case I hope, Thats bad enough. Im going to send you a link for your self esteem so you can keep strong and have a chat with your doc about the stress love, I found meditation worked for me as I went into premiture labour at 7 months and after my little gift was saved I took up the meditation with calming music and really concentrated on my baby and me and she was born just fine,
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php?ad=lm614
This site is great you can talk to other women who are having problems and the help they offer is amazing love I do hope you feel better soon and your life becomes alot more peacfull TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 I agree with Annalisa basically. No more needs to be said.
You are in for a tough time because he doesnt sound like he is anywhere near ready to be a proper family man. If he thinks he's right, he probably always will think so, and nothing you will ever say, will come across as any more than nagging to him.
Good luck with the baby.
C xxxx
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