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writes:hello i am having a boyfriend problem.see i like him but hes a bit ugly i don't want to hurt his feelings but i don't think i fancy him ?? what shall i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 If you find him ugly, then why is he already your bf?
Sounds to me like you have been using him, and now that you are done using him, you are ready to break up with him, and just want us to give you the excuse you need.
Stop using him.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): As much as this might sound shallow, in a successful relationship you need to be able to fancy each other. Obviously, don't put it bluntly, but you need to tell him that you don't exactly feel the same, and it might be better if you were apart. Yet, be careful, if you walk up to him and say ''Hey, by the way, you're ugly, we're over'', that could damage his self esteem for longer than you could ever imagine. So be careful honey.
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reader, kenny +, writes (17 February 2008):
 I think that you have got to be honest with this guy and tell him that you just don't fancy him. Ultimately you are leading on which is not fair on the guy, tell him how you feel soner rather than later, the longer you leave it the harder it will get. You will be feel better once you have told him because you will know you did the right thing. Sure he will be upset, but he will get over it, and its better than you leading him on.
All the best x
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Why are you dating him? Are you dating him out of sympathy?
You are doing him no favours being with him, if you are not remotely attracted to him.
I think you should finish with him and let him find a young lady who will appreciate him more and not because of his physical appearance but his personality. I think you are being very unkind by dating him in the first place and not having the guts to follow through with this relationship without a reasonable explaination.
Ask yourself this. Would you date a guy with model looks but treats you like dirt? or. Would you date a guy who is not goodlooking and treats you with respect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): Well I had an ugly BF once who I adored. He was so confident, funny, driven and successful and we got along so well. I loved him alot. I think he was beautiful. Looks-wise we were totally mismatched and most people could not understand how on earth we ended up together. Until they saw the dynamic between us then it all made sense. We had alot of fun. All laughs. It takes a certain amount of maturity to make up your own rules and your own tastes in a world that pigeonholes us all. Forget the world. Follow your own heart. You'll have alot more fun that way.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 When there is love,Beauty can even love a Beast, everything is beautiful but when there is no more love,even Mr. Handsome can be ugly.
If you don't fancy him , then let him go....
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Well if you really don't like him anymore then dump him, but its a bit harsh... Looks aren't everything ya kno! One day you'll learn that personality is more important than what's on the outside. If you decide do go ahead and dump him, then don't tell him the real reason - Just let him down gently, say that things arent working out! x
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reader, MIss_congeniality +, writes (17 February 2008):
 This is a very good question!However it is very unfair to lead this guy on if you do not fancy him, and the worst thing to do is to tell him he is ugly, because it will knock his self esteem right down.Call it a day just tell him your feelings have changed and you can no longer be with him, tell him he hasnt done anything wrong its just your not ready for commitment, there are two ways this can go, 1) He can go shitty with you2) He can be fine with it and take it like a man.Either way hun hes going to be hurt so i would just break up with him besides theres plenty of fish and all that
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reader, soph* +, writes (17 February 2008):
if you dont fancy him do to get with him, that is being shallow .. about not liking him becaus he is ugly but I don't blame you, there's nothing worse then going out with a ugly guy and feeling bad about it .. nobody can make you like him, not even him. hope I helped x
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