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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,I find myself stealing money from my parents now and again, like £20 at a time. I really want to stop, but I can't. I feel as if I'm addicted.HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): I am a 10 year old girl and I really want to stpo stealing money from my mom.
But how can I stop?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): When a kid in your age group makes the decision to begin stealing from his parents, something is amiss. I think it's a symptom of a problem in the family. I think you need attention from your folks. A good, positive attention will change your heart. It sounds like they need to guide, help and direct you more. Can you talk to them about this? I also think it's time for you to be honest and speak to Mom and Dad and ask if they can pay you a weekly allowance, but maybe you can earn that allowance by helping out around the house. Or perhaps you can find a way of earning your own money..you need that responsibility--it will give you a more purposeful life. When my kids were your age, they took on paper routes, they mowed lawns, the shovelled snow for people in the neighborhood. If you are 15 years of age, there are places that hire kids your age. Look into that. Talk to your friends and family. You are wanting to earn your own spending money. This 'stealing' is very isolating, angry behavior on your part and it means you don't care about responsibility and consequences. It needs to be turned around and the only people who can help you are your parents. If you have a hard time speaking to your parents about this...talk to a trusted family member who mediate with them for you or as suggested, below..talk to a school counselor. Be brave and try your hardest to not do this, anymore-it's a very disrespectful thing to do to people you love and if you get caught, the trust they have in you will be shattered. You want to keep the trust built up and solid with your parents, dear. It's to your betterment, in the long run. They no lonlier place than being in a family, where others don't trust nor respect you. Stop doing this today and talk to someone. Good luck, dear and I wish you the best.
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (18 February 2008):
 hey, well this a problem you're going to have to face your parents at some point, but im kinda sure that you got a reason for stealing money of your parents.possibly it could be your parents arent giving you enough pocket money?or there's something you wanna buy?but you have to think about how hard you parents are working hard for this money and your just their stealing it of them. you also have to think about how obvious they're gonna get if your stealing at least £20 a day. talk to your parents because i'm sure you're getting fed up of this as well.gd luckxx
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (18 February 2008):
Hi,
There may be all sorts of complicated reasons about this or it could be very simple and from what you have said we would not know which it was. However you know it is wrong and that you must stop. You need to start by talking to your mum about it and telling her that you want some help to stop feeling and acting this way.
Most parents (though not all) will be happy to help if their child came to them like this and facing your problem like this is a sign of growing up.
Help is available whatever the underlying cause is so you do not need to feel like you must face this alone.
Maybe there is some small part time after school job you are able to do where you can earn some money of your own. Maybe there are things that you can agree with your mother are not usual chores but additional jobs that you could earn more pocket money by doing. Do not expect that you should be paid for everything you do because that is not how life and families work. Everyone needs to do their part. But sometimes there are additional jobs that you can earn some money with.
If you can deal with this problem properly now you will be stopping it becoming far more serious later when you are older and will then have useful advice you could give others perhaps your friends, if they have a similar problem in the future.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): What would happen if your parents took you to the police? You have stolen and you are in the wrong. Next time you go to get the money, imagine yourself in a prison cell, i know this sounds a bit drastic but these measure may make you stop. Picture yourself taken away from you family and friends and bang up for a spell in prison. Or you could have a word with your parents and tell them what you have done and that you are very sorry and they have to lock away all their cash and valuable because they have a thief for a child. Stop it now.
take care
xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 What do you do with that stolen money? You bought things or spend it on your friends.
Stop this activity and you can stop stealing money from your parents because you won't need those money anymore.
If your parents found out , which they will sooner or later, all hell will break loose.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Sit down with your mum and talk to her about it. Tell her you've done something very wrong and want to tell her about it then once you've got it off your chest, tell her you're sorry. If she sees you're genuine about this then she'll talk to you about it. Ask her to hide her purse/bag or any money that may be lying around as you feel you have a problem and find it difficult not to do it.
You can stop doing this though, you need to be aware you're doing it and ask yourself why you do it. Question yourself when you feel you have the urge then physically take yourself away from the situation then praise yourself for resisting.
I'm sure there would be someone in school you could talk this over with, a guidance teacher or school psychologist. Ask if it continues. You don't need to let your teacher know what it is you want to talk to them about, just that you want to talk to someone about a problem you have and who you should go to.
~Eve~
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reader, faith_believe_love  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 hi,..theres no one could help you free from this wrongdoing but You no matter how many advices you get if still your mind was in it its really hard to stop.Let me share u mine i had a brother who done that when were younger too no matter how he want to stop he just cant he still did it until were teeners then i just see him change when he had his job.i dont mean to say that you cant do the change.You can do it.Take care.=)
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