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writes:I'm danielle,I live here in south korea and I have a husband who has disability so the problems is I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do. Reply to this Question
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reader, Bob D  +, writes (14 January 2009):
I wonder iiiif your husband was rich and he got someone else to care for him and he was going to give every thing to that someone else would you still be tired ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): I wonder iiiif your husband was rich and he got somr dne else to care for him and he was going to give every thing to that someone else would you still be tired ?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 Thanks for sharing your life with us. You did it for your family so that they may escape from poverty back home. You sacrificed your happiness and well being for your family's well being. This is a supreme sacrifice .
Think of it as a gratitude that your in laws have helped your family financially and they do not have to suffer because of poverty.
You live in a foreign country and a different culture and it is not easy adapting to your new environment.You try your best to adept to your new conditions as best as you can. It may take time , and you need to be patient.
Count your blessings . You can come online and asked a question here is a blessing . Your in laws are blessed with your presence. You are like an angel to them.
Pray to God that He will give you the strength to soldier on and to love your husband and to see him from a different angle.
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reader, danielle_25 +, writes (17 February 2008):
danielle_25 is verified as being by the original poster of the question first of all I wanna thank u guys for answering my question. Actually the disability of my husband can't walk since his young age,& yes I know his situation when I got merried him,by that time I dont know what to do, my family that time having a hard problems financially.
Where fixed merried, I really dont know him & never seing before. I think he was about to be merried because of his too old and want to experience how to be have a wife or family dispite of his disability and have a wife who cares in his need specially the things all the man & woman do making love.huuhhh!!!dont know what to do because I dont love him I know its my fault in first place please dont judge me guys coz im only a victim of poverty..but now i realize that Im not happy since when were together.
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reader, danielle_25 +, writes (17 February 2008):
danielle_25 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u for all your great answer to my quetion my friend..yeah I know he has a disability before I get merried him, I know that he can't walk since he's childhood birth,I merried him just because of my family financial problems so my husband tell me that if I merried to him t, he support my family, but I don't love him I try but it doesn't work.. I have a man who I really the love most, and now I dont know what to do Im tired and I dont want to do this in my whole life I want to be free!!I can't take it anymore..I know its my fault in the first place, but Im only a human having a mistake!!
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (14 February 2008):
Life is not easy for you and I am sure you feel tired when you have to take care of a disabled person. I am not going to judge you and I hope you have enough rest , eat well and the other family members treat you well.
Maybe, you would like to share more of your story here.
My empathy for your hardship and the toil you have to go through daily.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Could you please be a bit more specific about his disablity, was he born like that or was he in an accident. I assume that you knew about his disability before you married him. I bet there isn't a day goes by when he wishes that he was more able bodied and can do things for himself. I don't wish to sound harsh,but why on earth did you marry him in the first place?
I bet the poor guy hates it as much as you do and feels like he is a burden. You took the marriage vows to look after each other in sickness and in health.
My dad is 81 years old and he has to look after my mother who is 77 today as she has Altzhiemers disease, which is a very heartbreaking disease where her brain is slowly shutting down and will eventually die. Not once has my dad complained and felt that my mother is a burden. So please have a little more compassion for your husband and help him. So think yourself lucky that you are a healthy woman as I am sure your husband never asked to be disabled.
I rest my case Dusky xxx.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (14 February 2008):
hi hun
first of all i think you are a real inspiration to all 'carers' looking after someone disabled. yes it will become hard and you will come to a point where you want to give up. i would try and talk to a counsellor who can sit down and talk to you about what youre finding difficult and maybe you can get some encouragement.
if you want to talk please mail me
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