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writes:I was with this guy for 4 years. He always been nice to me during our relationship, but I caught him cheating on me. Instead of begging me for forgiveness he dump me right there and walk away with the other girl. I was devasted and I started to blame myself because he made me feel that it was me that cause him to cheat. I love this man and he knows it. I actually tried to ask him to come back and work things out because he was my first of everything. I thought I will marry this man. It's been six months now and he is still with the girl that he cheated on me with. During this time we still talk and I still allow him to touch me because he give me the impression that he will come back to me . He told me stuff to give me hope. Part of me knows he is lying because I caught him lying, but i still allow myself to believe him because I still love him. recently i just couldn't stand the feeling anymore and told him I wanted to leave him for good, but he won't let me. by saying he won't let me as we have things together and he won't sign them off for me because he knows that by signing them off I will walk away from his life forever. He won't let go of the other girl and he won't let me go either. what should I do and what does it say about this man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): Well what it says about this man is that he has found himself two girls who allow themselves to be played by him. So what should you do? Hmmm... I don't know, this is a tough one. Did it ever occur to you maybe to dump him? Or would that be too rash?? Actually, after giving it a considerable amount of thought, that definitely sounds like a very reasonable solution in my opinion. Hope this helps.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2008):
 You are handing your a heart to a man who is stomping on it! He is a manipulative user, you know he's a liar and has obviously picked the other girl over you, though he likes a bit of sex with you on the side. You are his little puppet at the moment.
If I were you, I would cut off contact with him; he's not good for your mental health. You have to decide what's in your best interests, YOU have to seize control over your destiny. Basically, at this point, you've handed that control over to him. Take it back and move on.
Grieve that the relationship is over, figure out what you can learn from this experience, and take care of yourself!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Give him a time period(1 week to 1 month) for him to think . If he cannot answer you , then you leave.
He is a fence sitter.
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reader, MIss_congeniality  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 First of all i would like to say none of this is your fault hunny.This man is obviously a very good manipulator and likes to be in control, well please turn the tables, first of all you have so many rights, you say you have been with him for 4 years, do u live together?You would beable to take this man to court i dont no if you married, but humnan rights state that in any long term relationship, when a person is caught cheating and you have proof, e.g he his now with another women, he can be done for adultey, you dont need to be married for this offence. also you still have the right to recieve some sort of compensation of half of everything.Tell this man you no longer care about him cheating, has once he has done it once he will do again and eventually he will be a very lonely man, because he will make a bad repuatation for himself.Move on there are plenty of descent guys out there, go on a blind date\ or go to a club, dont stop being happy because of this idiotic person, go find another man hunny, there are plenty out there show him you dont care, then he'l eventually back down, men who know you care tend to show off and make you jelous, wel by turning tables, if you find a guy and become happy he will then become jelous has he then know that his mind games of manipulation have no longer worked.Good luck feel free to message me hun if you want to talk
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