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writes:Hey I have a problem, im 15 and I like this gurl that is my friends bestfriend. Shes a girl and I have feelings for her, the thing is I am not attracted to girl I just feel as if I realate to her and I think shes really sweet. But I want to know what do to should I go for it, does this make me gay?? Please I dont think its hormones too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): YES!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): well i become a lesbian wen i was 14 i am now 17 and well it wasnt a choice just wait and see
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reader, Namatjira  +, writes (18 February 2008):
Hi,
You are 15 and your body is still maturing and sorting itself out. During this time it is normal for you to feel strong friendship to people of both sexes. In some case you may be infatuated but until everything settles down you will not really know.
Be careful not to make choices that will commit you in any way but just enjoy being friends with everybody you feel friendly to. I think this gender confusion which is really quite common, is one of the reasons why it is important for young people to not get too sexually active at such a young age.
Do not worry about yourself. It is normal to feel attracted to people we feel are special in some way and if they are the same sex as us it does not mean we are gay, just that we feel some special bond and that is okay.
One of my daughter's felt that she might be gay when she was about your age but was not sure. Her sister at the same age felt the some. Several years later one had decided that she was gay while the other decided that she was not. Both are happy with their feelings on this. Waiting for them, was the right thing to do.
So don't be in too much of a hurry to grow up and just let nature take its course. Whether it is next month, next year, or in 5 years time - at some point you will know without doubt what your sexuality is.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2008): Apparently (I read in a magazine) it's totally normal between around the ages of 12 and 16 to have feelings for a person of the same sex. It's the hormones experimenting in your body, and sometimes, if you do prefer a partner of the same sex, this is what makes you a lesbian or gay. I wouldn't worry too much, if it doesn't feel right to like her then you're probably not a lesbian. But even if you are, hey, it's your life and your choices. Many people out there choose to like a person of the same sex.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 It is considered a gay relationship when you live together or have sex with each other.
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (18 February 2008):
Only you know if your gay no one can tell you yes or no, its not that simple. And dont worry about being gay, lots of people are, like the old saying goes......"to each his own". good luck to you and remember love you for you sweetie.
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