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writes: i did make a mistake when i fell for this married guy who's in my office and senior to me...but the best part is this i never allowed him to touch me and i simply refused to get physical with him....now i've stopped talking to him...even he didn't make any effort to get me back...the problem is that i m fine during weekends when he is not around...i don't miss him at all....but during week days it's really hard to resist the urge to speak to him...i m trying to control this urge but it's a real torture for me...pls suggest me some ways to make it easier for me
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Hi,
If you are work colleagues and need to communicate don't stop. Chances are people in the office will already be aware "something" is going on ( I personally have never seen an office affair being effectively hidden - it's so easy to tell ). As for the feelings, congratulations on resisting this predator, now if you are finding it hard to cope with the missed opportunity just think for a moment what sort of married man seeks illicit sex with a workmate while his wife is unaware. He's not such a great guy now is he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): Why do you have to speak to him at all? I think it would be quite unwise to speak to him, because, if that was me, i would want the conversation to go further. But, a married guy is always going to be a no no. So resist, walk away and stop day dreaming about him, he is married and with another. If you work together and you have to talk about work, then so be it, but if not, then dont, simple as that, then you cannot be let on.
take care
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 If there is a need to speak to him , you have to speak to him.
Once you speak to him , it will break your spell.
You will not be troubled about this urge anymore.
You need to normalize your relationship as you work in the same place.
Be civil and cordial to each other.
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reader, YourHeart  +, writes (17 February 2008):
Hi, You are one of the best personalities and that is very much sure. One true love is sacrifice. It's not important you let him touch or be physical with you...or not. The most important is the feeling of love and for that you should be proud of. You should be proud of Your Love for that person. More than that You should be proud of not being selfish to have physical relation with the married man and by this you are not breaking the trust of his wife. Deep down inside your mind you might be feeling the same. Most precious thing in life is sacrifice for someone you love. And this you have to do it to let your love be pure , spritual and unique.
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