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writes:right...I have been going oout with this boy for nearly 3 weeks and I really like him.But his friend, (who is my friend also), told me that my boyfriend is going to dump me if this girl fancys him. I dont know what to do, finsh him or stay with him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 February 2008):
 A BIG IF!!
IF this girl is going to like him....?
IF your friend is telling the truth....?
IF your friend knows what your b/f is thinking......?
IF the world will end tomorrow....?
IF your b/f dumps you...?
There are no answers to your IF!
Live in the present and forget what your friend said.
If whatever happens will happen ,whether IF that girl likes him or not.
Just because someone put some obstacles in your path , you sneak back into your tortoise shell for comfort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008): Hi well is this friend of yours male or female? Jealousy is the wrong thing to be! so could your friend be jealous of your new relationship?maybe try asking your boyfriend, trust is important in a relationship and especially in the early stages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Ask him about him calmly. You could approach it by saying that there is a rumour going around amongst your friends about 'us' so you are raising it as a joint problem and not sounding accusatory towards him otherwise he could think you don't trust him and this could cause problems. At the moment even if your friend is telling the truth, there is no proof or evidence so you have to approach it carefully. Observe his reactions carefully and look out for any signs that he might be shifty or lying. If he has nothing to hide he won't mind you talking to him about it. I did wonder whether your friend was trying to stir trouble with you for some reason .. maybe because he fancies you or is jealous that his friend has a girlfriend. One of my friends once liked a guy and a male friend of HIS told HER best friend that this guy did not fancy her and it turned out later that he did fancy her but his friend did not want him to get with a woman because it might impact upon their boys nights out etc .. If it turns out to be the case that he was planning on asking someone else out, then you can deal with that separately. Good luck. xx
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reader, Devilish Angel  +, writes (15 February 2008):
 I think you should confront him like the other girl said. If you keep doubting him on the word of a friend of his, then it'll destroy your relationship. Go ask him about it. The friend might want to break you guys up for some reason or other.
Be honest about your feelings without being confrontational. Keep your tone calm and your voice calm also.
Don't act like you're accusing him of anything...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Tell him what you have heard and see what he says. Don't let him turn it around onto you and turn it into an argument by accusing him of not trusting you etc. Just calmly discuss it with him and watch his reaction carefully. You could approach it by saying you were upset to hear gossip about 'us' so you don't sounds as though you are attacking him just in case he IS innocent and you end driving him away by making him think you don't trust him. On the other hand if he is planning to ask someone else out, you have a right to know about it and not be made a fool of!!
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reader, Serinity +, writes (15 February 2008):
 Confront your boyfriend and ask him about it. It could be true or it could be a rumor. If you break it off with him over a rumor you will probably regret it. He may not be 100% honest with you either, so when you ask him look for signs of nervousness and/or uncomfortability. If he shows these signs but denies it, then there is a good chance that it could be true.
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reader, jessica2811 +, writes (15 February 2008):
jessica2811 is verified as being by the original poster of the question please help me xx
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