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writes:I have the most wonderful boyfriend. He treats me very well, he's respectful, loving, attentive, everything you could possibly want in a man, and I am madly in love with him.But he has a problem with anger when he gets drunk. Normally, he;s fine. We argue when he's sober and resolve it just as quick, no aggression. But when he drinks spirits/gets very drunk, he can get a bit aggressive.There has only been 2 occasions this has happened, but the last time it ended up in him pushing me out of the way, and I lost my balance and fell over. When I went to leave his house, he kicked my car, leaving a big dent.He's completely remorseful and embarassed and completely sorry and has had my car fixed, he has been to his doctor to request counselling and he is going to an anger management course.Partly to blame are his family - he had a very dysfunctional upbringing and alot of what he saw was anger and aggression as a child.I do love him and I want to help him, I appreciate that he is going to the effort of seeking help and trying to resolve the underlying problem - am I right in staying with him?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 Try to convince him to give up drinking or drink in moderations only.
If you failed, then do not argue or incite him when he is drunk.
Get out of his way till he is sober again.
Just let him say anything without saying anything in response.
You know it is his way when he is drunk.
Some drunks become abusive or aggressive .
If they don't drink in excess , they should be O.K
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reader, iHaveSum12Love  +, writes (30 March 2008):
I think it is awesome that he is asking for help! Many guys wouldn't do that. I would keep giving him your support as long as he is getting help for his problems.
good luck!
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (30 March 2008):
 it takes a big man to ask for help when he needs it! ur lucky ur guy is willing to try.
id say as long as hes working on his problems give him ur love and support.
support from a loved one goes a long way!
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