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*harly-kins
writes:well am 16 and recently guys have started noticing me. I've had 4 boyfriends in the last 6 months or so but theres always been one thats special to me..hes 17 and has a kid but the problem is am still a virgin..we've messed around alot and since we split have been really good mates hes always there for me but every time we're alone together something always happens and I've nearly had sex with him a couple of times but i always push away after a while sometimes he makes me feel so special and other times i think am just his bit of fun...everytime i say something to him about it he doesnt realy reply but when hes drunk he rings me up and tells me how much he likes me..am really confused and i just don't know wot he is really thinking...what should i do??
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 He cannot bring himself to tell you without the aid of alcohol.
Alcohol releases his timidity and tells you what he really
feels inside which he cannot expresses out .
When he is high , he is telling the truth to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Honestly honey I think he's using you . number one if he trys to have sex with you all the time and you don't want to then thats not good . The kid thing... it could be a problem ....I you don't feel like he likes you unless he's drunk thats not good either. I think he's using you hun...
I don't know for sure but thats what it sounds like.
I hope everyhting works out for you :)
Be careful and don't let him pressure you into anything you don't wanna do ok .
message me anytime!!!
take care
*~VG~*
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Hmm what is wrong with this picture? He is 17 and has a kid from a girl he was never married to. He makes out with you and you nearly have had sex with him numerous times. He drinks to the point of being drunk and thinks of you and rings you up and tells you how much he likes you, but when you point blank ask him what he wants or how he feels he doesn't even bother to respond to you, when he is sober.
Sometimes he makes you feel special, but other times you feel like his bit of fun.
He seems a bit disrespectful to you to me....I personally think he is after one thing and one thing only.
I am sure he is charming otherwise he would not get to be around you, but my guess he seems rather exciting and is a bit of a bad boy, he doesn't really give you all that much of a relationship, just some sporadic attention and heavy petting.....which keeps you coming back for more...he isn't easy to get...
I agree it sounds like a lot of guys think you are a great girl, I wouldn't give away your virginity to this joker, I would wait until you are in a proper relationship with someone who treats you like a girlfriend and who you are in love with. I hope you wait awhile anyway before falling in love and doing any of that. You have a lot of life ahead of you, and I hope you will focus on what you want and what you want to do with your life as an independent young woman. Figure out what kind of guy is good enough for you and what kind of relationship will make you happy, and then don't settle for less or for some guy who has to get drunk to tell you he likes you.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (29 March 2008):
 This guy should concentrate on being a father not trying to make out with girls, however if you do decide to sleep with him use protection. You don't want be another one of his latest conquests ending up pregnant, do you?
The reason he makes you feel special is because he wants to get his leg over, as soon as he has done that he will have it on his toes, so do not get used by this guy. Save your virginity for someone special, it will be worth it in the end. Dusky xxx.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (29 March 2008):
 I think your gut feeling about this guy and your fear he's messing you about are probably right here but who am I to say? I don't know the guy. What I would say (and this is very generalised) is that a guy who already has a kid at 17 could be perceived as a bit of a player, ie sex is just sex to him. In a few years that might be all sex is to you too but I would never advise losing your virginity to someone who felt like this. While no-one's first time is as perfect as it is in the movies, you're sure to just feel used and abused if you do have sex with this guy and then he rejects you. You must be a great girl since so many guys appear interested in you so hold out and lose your virginity to someone who really matters.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2008): Ever ything happens for a reason, and whats meant to be will be. and what isnt will be forgotten,dont rush into things with your eyes closed,if he cares about you it shouldnt matter if your a virgin .. a girls first time should be special because you always remember it. plus consider all the factors such as he has a child, are you ready for a responsibillity like that. just follow your heart but use your head dont feel pressured into anything you dont want to do.x
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