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reader, dannyn  +, writes (14 December 2009):
how are any of yous saying that is isnt cheating?
theres intimacy with a member of the opposite sex. this is DEFINATELY cheating. my ex girlfriend did the same and everyone i asked said she messed up.
just to get another girls opinion since my ex doesnt know why she did it. what made you 'cuddle' with another guy? was it necessary while watching the movie?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Pretend you were single for a moment. Let's say you have a male friend, and it's already settled between you & him that there is no attraction between you two at all. Would you be open to the idea of cuddling with him like you are now?
I think that's probably the best way to ask yourself where the line is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Yes. I would not cuddle another man outside of my relationship, likewise I would be deeply unhappy if my boyfriend were cuddling another woman! Stop it and exercise some self-control.
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reader, lilmisse2424  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 it does look like a debate here. i would say, if you are in a relationship with someone, cuddling with another friend is inappropriate. cuddling is intimate and between you and your bf. friends show afftection by hugging, but cuddling with a friend shows that you are harming the relationship.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 If your boyfriend did this with other girls, would you consider it cheating? The fact that you are hiding something from your boyfriend rings a very loud bell, Don't you think? When you are in an exclusive relationship, you only give sexual affection to one person, the person that you are in that relationship with. Cuddling is "emotional" cheating at the very least. You are giving affection to another boy.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Seems there is a pretty even split here - I would have to come down on the side of no. Yes it is intimacy but it doesnt cross the line and friends do hug however some may feel that it does show a certain lack of respect your partner as has always been mentioned. When it comes to that it depends purely on how your partner feels, if he feels it does cross a line then it does.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Definately YES!, so stop doing it.
take care
xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Sure is and after cuddling whats next ,some light touching and caressing?
What if you come back to his place and find your b/f doing that?
What would be your reactions?
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reader, happytochat +, writes (30 March 2008):
You could probably debate about whether or not it is cheating. But what can be said in certain is that it is inappropiate! Cuddeling is an intimate thing. Sure some friends may hug when they greet each other but thats a hug, a hug is very very different to cuddeling, as cuddeling lasts and you are doing it while watching a movie- that is what couples do.
It shows a lack of disrespect towards your partner who you are in a relationship with.
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reader, g247  +, writes (30 March 2008):
I wouldn't call it cheating per se, but if you value your relationship and wish it to continue I'd stop doing it.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (30 March 2008):
 I would say yes
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Of course it is, it's intimacy. You wouldn't do it in front of your partner would you? No. You'd do it behind your back. Therefore you know it's something he wouldn't like, so you shouldn't really do it.
Hence why I'd say it's cheating.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Yes.
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