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Should I contact my ex to tell him I want us to remain friends?...

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Question - (30 March 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 30 March 2008)
A female Australia, anonymous writes:

My bf broke up with me 1 week ago and he said he really wanted to stay friends. He said he still liked me a lot but we just arent 'meant to be'. I guess it's true because we both wanted different things out of a relationship so it wasn't really working. When he broke up with me, he kept asking me if I wanted to be friends, like constantly asking as if he really didn't want to lose contact with me and I kept saying I don't know.

He hasn't spoken to me since and I haven't contacted him. I've decided now that I want to be friends with him or at least see how hes going. I don't knwo, i just really miss him. I'm not sure if I should contact him and tell him I do want to be friends. Do you think maybe he's waiting for me?

What do i say if i contact him? The thing is, if i remain friends with him, I think i will secretly have a hope that he will want to get back with me.

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A female reader, Tamarillo United Kingdom +, writes (30 March 2008):

i know how you're feeling...to be honest you can't be friends with him because you will always be hoping that there will be a chance that you two will get back together again. And how would you cope when he tells you that hes found another girl? You're not going to take it easily.

Best to leave it and tell him you need time on your own and don't contact him. I should have done that in the first place because i did the mistake of pleading with him for another chance and finally told him no contact. so far he has complied with the request.

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A female reader, hurleyflipflop United States +, writes (30 March 2008):

hurleyflipflop agony auntYES! Just call him and act like nothing happened, just call to see what's up. Don't necessarily make plans with him right away though because that could make you look desperate, or sad, even if you're not. Just call to see how things are, but don't get upset either if he seems standoffish. Just give him some more time, remember that its only been a week and that he's probably upset too. Always remember absence makes the heart grow fonder!

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (30 March 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntAbsence makes the heart grows fonder.

You know what will be his reception.

So just call him and don't dilly dally any longer..LOL!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008):

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Yes I admit that deep down, I secretly hope that we might get back together. Its hard to let go when I know he still likes me alot and misses me a lot as well (so his family says).

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (30 March 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntYou can pretend like nothing happened and just call him and say ,'Hi! How are things!'

That would break the icy wall that has sprang up between you two.

You should try it if you secretly harbour the thoughts of getting back together again.

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