Could somebody out there tell me the advantages of dating white men exclusively?
Q. I started dating caucasian men a year ago because I have had nothing but bad luck with men from my own race (Asian). Could somebody out there tell me the advantages of dating white men exclusively? Help!!!...
A. 24 March 2010: There are the good, the bad and the ugly in every race. It is very unfortunate that you only met those bad ones from your own race.
There are pro's and cons of dating a white man.Culturally there are differences between Caucasians and Asians. ... (read in full...)
Swinging... Can it happen without things getting messy like jealousy etc?
Q. My new girlfriend wants to swing with another couple she and I consider friends. I am very turned on by the the thought of this but worry about the aftermath. The other couple suggested it to my girl so everyone is on board. Has anyone ever done ...
A. 24 March 2010: What you see will be forever implanted into your mind. You will not be able to erase those scenes from your mind no matter how hard you try it.
Either one of you will be affected and your relationship will never be the same again.
You are... (read in full...)
Should I approach my manager?
Q. Hello: I was removed out of a dept. that I was hired into do because of this manager I worked with for two years. Things went bad due to workplace drama and gossip, and lack of communication to clarify things between us. Now this seaso...
A. 24 March 2010: You could try but go with an open mind and without any expectations.
If the decision still stands , accept the reality and move on.... (read in full...)
Should I help my b/f babysit his kid?
Q. Hey I will go straight to the point me and my boyfriend have been together for over 5 years about a year and half ago things started to get stressful between us so we broke up. He started to see someone else and got her pregnant they broke up and me ...
A. 24 March 2010: If you love him , you should love his son even if he is not your son. He comes in a package . His son is an extension of him. You cannot chose and pick what you like.
You should not allow your bias or prejudiced feelings stand in the way of lovin... (read in full...)
Is this tutor fair game?
Q. I'm not really sure how to go about asking this, so I'm just going to jump right into it. I have a tutor for my science class that I really like. He tutors me once a week and we get along great. I flirt with him a lot and I'm pretty sure that he ...
A. 24 March 2010: It could be the start of a great relationship with him .As long as you don't do it openly while being a student and don't get pregnant by him , it should be O.K.
As a student , you should concentrate on your studies and let nothing comes in betwe... (read in full...)
Cheating option...
Q. Hi Friends, I have been married for few months now and have a daughter around 1 month old. I've been going to this gym for some time now and think I have fallen for the receptionist at the gym. I think even she likes me. I have not told this gir...
A. 24 March 2010: She will dump you and walk away. Who wants to love a cheater?... (read in full...)
My parents don't allow people to 'hang out' in their home. Should I tell my boyfriend this is the reason I don't take him home?
Q. Hey guys, I live with my parents and have been in a relationship with my BF for about 8 months. He's my first serious BF. He lives on his own. His family and friends are very social people, and I'm over at their houses quite often. My parents are...
A. 24 March 2010: Tell him your reasons and assure him that it has nothing to do at all with him . It is just the way your parents live and it is their culture. He will understand.... (read in full...)
Is the potential for a relationship here?
Q. Alright. This, I'm sure is probably a common (ish?) situation. I'm seventeen. I look older than I am, (around early twenties, so I've been told), so that might explain a little bit of this situation. At my job, there's a guy, he's married and about ...
A. 24 March 2010: The potential for a relationship is there but...he is married and out of bounds.
You can have fun as long as you stay within the bounds of decency and morality.
This friendship is bobby trapped and full of landmines. If you are not careful, you... (read in full...)
I am pregnant by donor insemination, but the kids I teach are saying I got drunk and knocked up!
Q. Alright, so im an 8th grade teacher and im 27 years old. I haven't been in a relationship in about 5 years ago, and everyone seems to be taken. My students seem to all know this information about me and they are talking. When I was talking with one ...
A. 24 March 2010: You cannot control what people think or want to say .You could correct the misconceptions about your pregnancy by telling the truth to them and leave it like that.
Whether they want to believe you or not is not for you to decide. You have done you... (read in full...)
Is it ok to cheat?
Q. I don't know if anyone else has noticed, but nowadays it seems like it has become completely acceptable (and inevitable) that if you are in a relationship your partner is deffinately going to cheat. You see all these poor humilliated women in the m...
A. 24 March 2010: Those are just marriages of convenience and probably their love is only skin deep. They married for his money and fame and they became objects of his desire or a play toy only. Those men did not love them or their love for them was only short ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with their friendly relationship without interfering?
Q. The guy i like at school is currently 'married' to one of my closest friends on facebook, I know hes interested in me vaguely, but im not sure how to act on it. At the moment my friend dosn't like him as more than a friend, but i am worried it wi...
A. 24 March 2010: You stay in contact with him and in time if he likes you, he would gravitate towards you.
If things are meant to happen between you two ,it will happen,no matter what.... (read in full...)
If the first topic on the first date is polygamy, what would you think?
Q. hello, I have a question, if a man asks you out on date and the first topic he talks about is polygamy. what would you think!...
A. 24 March 2010: Asian girls are more submissive and docile and polygamy is acceptable as long as the man can take good care of them financially and be fair to all his wives.
In the Muslim religion, they are allowed to marry 4 wives. For other religions or cultu... (read in full...)
I found out I have HPV, and am in shock. Please give me advice!
Q. I just found out I have HPV and have no idea what to expect. Does anyone have any advice or information for me? I am in shock right now....
A. 24 March 2010: You could Google and find more information's online.
This site has valuable information's on HPV;-
http://www.cdc.gov/STD/HPV/STDFact-HPV.htm
HPV is the most common sexually transmitted virus.! The likelihood of getting an HPV infection ... (read in full...)
Does this friend not like our circle of friends anymore?
Q. So I have simple question. I hang out these 3 other kids, we'll call them T, S, C. We usually hang out every single weekend and go to the mall and then stay at thier grandparents house for the rest of the weekend. We always have fun and laugh with ...
A. 24 March 2010: Glad it turned out alright .Sometimes, it is just communications break down . Once reconnected, everything is back to normal again.... (read in full...)
I find it easier to talk to him online, how can I overcome this problem?
Q. I've been talking to this guy on my tennis team for a little bit. We talk perfectly online, where I can totally be myself and talk about anything that comes to mind. But then, when it comes to real life, he intimidates me. He'll give me a look, ...
A. 24 March 2010: You need to be confident, relax and calm .Do not put him on a pedestal.
He is only human and have flaws too.Try to bring him down to your level. Do not be intimidated or awed by him.
Imagine that you are online talking to him when you are fac... (read in full...)
If the first topic on the first date is polygamy, what would you think?
Q. hello, I have a question, if a man asks you out on date and the first topic he talks about is polygamy. what would you think!...
A. 24 March 2010: Just tell him what you think. You can also find out his character from his answers.
Certain cultures still practice polygamy officially and unofficially.
In a situation where there are more girls than boys, then polygamy maybe encouraged by th... (read in full...)
Ever since I got a boyfriend, my best guy friend hasn't been talking to me as much. I miss him!
Q. I just got a boyfriend and he really cares about me but ever since I've had a boyfriend my best guy friend hasn't been talking to me much. I like my boyfriend but I still have strong feelings for my friend. I feel like crying! I would never hurt my ...
A. 24 March 2010: That is life. Your b/f has replaced your guy friend and he must withdraw . You have chosen your b/f over him.
Your guy friend will slowly fade from your scene .He will understand your decision and he will focus his attention on somebody else.
... (read in full...)
I'm scared if he find out I have 2 kids, he'll run. Help!
Q. I'm a 23 year old female and I have 2 kids. A girl aged 4 and a boy aged 15 months. My daughter's father passed away when she was just a year old and I broke up with my son's father when he was still a baby because of his infidelity. I stayed singl...
A. 23 March 2010: You have to take the risk and inform him . It is better this way than for him to find out later.
If he likes you, he would not mind and your honesty will shine through.
You two would make a nice pair with a ready family.
Good luck to yo... (read in full...)
His wife accepts an open relationship, but he seems to have issues with that. Should I pounce him anyway and see what happens?
Q. This is complicated. I have known this guy for bit but never really hung out all that often, just raced together a couple of times. We got together a while ago and I knew he was married so thought nothing of it. Turns out he truly just needed ...
A. 23 March 2010: Don't fish in troubled waters. It won't do you any good. Getting involved with a married man is out of bounds, even if his marriage is rotten like hell.
Stear clear of the boundaries. Make sure you don't cross them. You will make things complica... (read in full...)
Should I tell my nother who thinks I don;t live up to my potential to lay off me?
Q. My mother fears that I'm not "living up to my full potential." I don't see why because I'm in a school for gifted children (or teenagers, whatever), I was accelerated a grade, I currently have a 4.0 and I can get into college solely on scholarships. ...
A. 23 March 2010: It is disrespectful to say that to her. The best way is to prove to her with your excellent results. If your results are down , you need to buck up and concentrate on your studies.
She is concerned that you may get addicted to those video games an... (read in full...)
He is always busy. Should I cut him off?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a week now n we have been very affectionate, we laugh n get along great. We told each other we like one another and it seems were on the same page. I haven't seen him for a couple days n when he told me he would come ...
A. 23 March 2010: You have the right to say that to him but whether he gets the meaning or hint or not is another matter.
If you tell your feelings to him , he could feel that you are a tad too demanding of his time. He may not like it if his feelings for you is n... (read in full...)
She wont answer my calls, is she still angry with me?
Q. i have got married to the girl of my dreams and lost her 1.5 months after wedding, the reason was our repeated arguments and i was tough enough with her although i love her more than myself. she left three weeks ago, she is not answering my calls, ...
A. 23 March 2010: You have to go and see her face to face and try to fix your problem. You have to talk to her and find out what is her problem.
If you are in the wrong , eat humble pie. ... (read in full...)
How do I stop comparing myself to my ex's gf?
Q. Why do I always get discriminated because I'm not pretty? It just hit me hard twice in these last two years when I entered college. I had a pretty best friend and most of the time if guys pass by they would just talk to her, ignoring me! ...
A. 23 March 2010: Tell yourself that everyone is unique . She is not everything and you have some qualities which are better than hers.
She is not perfect and she has her flaws too.
Don't walk with those girls who are more beautiful than you . Make friends wit... (read in full...)
She wants to be called a 'little girl', and she wants me to pick out my 'pet name'. Help!
Q. my girlfriend has me call her little girl during sex. and she wants to call me something but wants me to think of it but i really have no clue so my question is what should i call her multiple suggestions would be helpful. please and thank you...
A. 23 March 2010: The Grim Ripper, Big Bad Wolf, The Beast, Herman Munster ,Dracula, Saddam Hussein,The Lord of the Rings, Attila the Hun,Count Dracula, The Ghoul,The Grisly Bear...... (read in full...)
Does this friend not like our circle of friends anymore?
Q. So I have simple question. I hang out these 3 other kids, we'll call them T, S, C. We usually hang out every single weekend and go to the mall and then stay at thier grandparents house for the rest of the weekend. We always have fun and laugh with ...
A. 23 March 2010: It means that she has no more desire to hang out with you all. It maybe temporary or it could be permanent .Only time will tell.
You will have to get used to her absence and move on.... (read in full...)
What is the risk of becoming pregant while on the pill and having fertility issues?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question re: sex and risk of pregnancy. My bf and I have been together quite a while and we have been having sex maybe 1 or 2x/week. We recently got tested so that we could enjoy it without a condom once in a while. In terms...
A. 23 March 2010: Since you have no issues about being pregnant, your question seems quite redundant.
But anyway to answer your question , the risk of getting pregnant in your case is very low ,maybe below 2% .(This is only my educated guess as I am not a doctor.)... (read in full...)
How can I have a normal day without thinking of him, and crying over him?
Q. I have a problem... I have a crush on some one that has a girl friend that im' completely jealous of for 1. she has a relationship with him and 2. she looks prettier than me (because she wears make up) so any ways I had some one to talk to him for ...
A. 23 March 2010: If you don't like to remember somebody, you need to demonize and vilify him. Think of all those negatives things about him and you will puke at the mention of his name. ... (read in full...)
How can I get out of the friend zone, and get her to like me?
Q. i met this girl at a street dance in my town. and i found out we went to the same school. we started hanging out about a week later. its been almost a year now and we hang out almost every day. she is now my best friend. and she says im her best ...
A. 23 March 2010: Only time will change her opinions of you. You are far from her ideals and you can only be her best friends for now.
In time , she may change her perceptions of you when she realizes that her ideals are too lofty or something magical happens ... (read in full...)
The language barrier is keeping me from involving my boyfriend in my family life.
Q. I have an amazing BF, never met anyone like him. His family’s great as well and they’ve made me feel so welcome. My parents however are a bit different. Their English is not very good and they don’t have many friends here. My dad is a bit strange, ...
A. 23 March 2010: Tell him and explain to him that it is a cultural thing and that you do not share the same concepts.You were brought up with a different concept and background.
He should be able to understand and accept your perspective if he loves you .... (read in full...)
He doesn't think condoms are safe enough and I dislike pills. Should I go on the pill?
Q. Me and my boyfriend want to have sex but I am not on the pill and I don't want to, I have regular periods and they a very light, I have no problems with mood swings etc. very lukcy, I think and I don't want to go on the pill because this could ...
A. 23 March 2010: No one can force you to take those pill if you think they will have those side effects on you . You will need to convince him that it is better not to take those pills for health reasons.
But in your post, you said you 'THINK' you may have moo... (read in full...)
I give my all in relationships, but he doesn't seem to reciprocate!
Q. Can anyone help me out please. I am the type of women that will give all of my love when i get into a relationship. Well a little while ago i started dating this guy and we hit it off right from the start. The thing about it is that he never ...
A. 23 March 2010: Never give your all in any relationship because if he breaks your heart , you still have some left.
If you give 100% ,then your heart will be shattered into many pieces when they leave you ,which they always do.
If he has no time for you , y... (read in full...)
I am 17 and attracted to older men
Q. Ok, I'm a 17 year old girl, soon to be 18, and I tend to find myself attracted to men in their late 20s and early 30s. My whole life I've been told if I date a man so much older, then when I get into a relationship with a man my own age, it will ...
A. 23 March 2010: Age is just a figure and boys mature later than girls. When you are in love, it is not the age that counts but the maturity level that connects you both .
You can flow with each other because you can communicate and understand each other better o... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to date him if I'm not sure if I like him as more than friends?
Q. A couple days ago someone confessed to me. I said I liked them back, but I'm not sure if I just like them as a friend, or like like. I think I may grow to like like them, but is it wrong for me to date them when my feelings are so confused? What if ...
A. 23 March 2010: Your heart and your brain is not on the same course. Thats why you feel confused.
You have those feelings in your heart but your brain is denying it.
It is not wrong to date him because you need to find out if he is the suitable one for... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so irrationally heartbroken when not with my boyfriend?
Q. Dear Aunties, I have yet another question: I'm very much in love with my boyfriend. I was curious as to why I always feel so irrationally heartbroken when he goes back to his house. I know I miss him, but it's a ripping feeling in my chest and some...
A. 23 March 2010: It could be some childhood trauma that you have experienced about losing someone very dear in your life. This is only an educated guess.
You may need to see a therapist .... (read in full...)
He got someone pregnant while we were broken up
Q. my ex partner of 8 years and father of my two ids slept wit someone else fpr a few weeks wile we were apart.he told me he wasnt seeing anyone and was still having sex wit me wen he called for kids. he has recently found out she is pregnant. when he ...
A. 23 March 2010: If you say that you love him so much , are you willing to carry his extra burdens or baggage on your back.
Will it break your back?
Or you can simply walk away and be free.
There is life even if he is not by your side.... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about her, but she's my best friend. What should I do?
Q. every school day i wake up at 6:30, leave home to get coffee, then wait at the bus stop listening to music until my friends get there, then we talk until the bus gets there. this has been my routine for two years now and for two years i have had a ...
A. 23 March 2010: All you need to do is to spend more time with her and nature will take its course.
Be more considerate ,kind ,gentle , loving and really listen to her . Just be yourself.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 23 March 2010: Lenal, you are welcome. I hope you will find your happiness and peace in your life soon.... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 23 March 2010: By protocol , the DIL should 'kowtow' (bow) before the MIL (The Dowager). This works in most culture.
She should do it out of respect for you and your mother.
Your wife is too strong willed , dominant and controlling .She is the younger one ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could be pregnant even if he pulled out before he ejaculated?
Q. Hello my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex but he pulled out a minute before he ejaculated.. i'm concerned now because i'm also ovulating.. i have been for a couple of days.... is there a great enough chance i could be pregnant even if he pulled ...
A. 23 March 2010: Everything is O.K Now. Nothing will happen to you .... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 22 March 2010: Just leave them alone and allow nature to take it's course. You should not precipitate a head on because it might worsen the situation beyond repair.
Pray to God daily for a miracle .Be more patient .... (read in full...)
Should I try to get my ex-boyfriend back?
Q. I was dating a guy two years ago. We were together for one year. One day unexpectedly I received a job offer to work abroad for one year. The opportunity was so good that I took it. My boyfriend wanted me to stay, but did not tell me. He said before ...
A. 22 March 2010: He should give you his private line . It is unfair on your side. It means that he has downgraded your status to an ordinary man in the street.
In which case, you can only wait for his call. Calling him would lower your dignity and self worth.... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could be pregnant even if he pulled out before he ejaculated?
Q. Hello my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex but he pulled out a minute before he ejaculated.. i'm concerned now because i'm also ovulating.. i have been for a couple of days.... is there a great enough chance i could be pregnant even if he pulled ...
A. 22 March 2010: There is no safe method of contraception's. Even the pill is not 100%.
The pull out method is unsafe because some sperms could have been ejaculated . You run the risk of getting pregnant if you have unprotected sex.... (read in full...)
Should I try to get my ex-boyfriend back?
Q. I was dating a guy two years ago. We were together for one year. One day unexpectedly I received a job offer to work abroad for one year. The opportunity was so good that I took it. My boyfriend wanted me to stay, but did not tell me. He said before ...
A. 22 March 2010: You would need to find out where he stands by asking him for a date. You can then find out if he is still interested in you or not.
Give him another chance.
... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 22 March 2010: Lenal, do not worry about what he said. Some men will say one thing and do another .They are just obstinate and want to win the argument They want to be in control.
Leave and you will see the results that words are only words.You don't deserve ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 21 March 2010: He needs to see the situation has changed and his mother cannot be allowed to live in this way.
If you do not threatened to move out, he will be very obstinate and stuck to his guns.
If you leave, then he will see the hopelessness of ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 20 March 2010: You are welcome! Do not feel guilty or be responsible for what happens to his mother. You did your best under those conditions and you need help.His mother is his responsibility.
Who is responsible for you if you go mad and end up at those fu... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 19 March 2010: You were first given that option to live alone without her but you rejected it. It is hard to blame you for wanting out now.You did not know the real conditions when you agreed with your husband.
After you have given your best, and you found ou... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mother in-law? I cant keep living like this!
Q. I don't know from where I start ,I am tired of the situation I am living in.and I do not know what I should do ,I need help,I want to make a mature and a right decision. Before I get married,I was in different country ,and my husband was living w...
A. 18 March 2010: It is not easy living with your MIL who has such a temperament.
For your own peace and sanity , you should moved out and have your own place where you can have a retreat and be the Queen in your own house.
It is either this way or your husb... (read in full...)
Why should I have to choose between my girlfriend and my mum?
Q. Please help. My girlfriend and i have a young baby, my girlfriend thinks my mum hasn't made enough effort in coming to see us and the baby (which maybe she hasn't but my gf hasn't made her feel welcome lately). Also my mum is depressed at the ...
A. 11 March 2010: Be cool and don't get angry with your wife and don't do anything stupid or against your wife's will.
Your wife is piqued because your mom did not visit her while she can visit your niece. She felt resentment and her pride wounded.
Give her more... (read in full...)
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