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writes:I'm not really sure how to go about asking this, so I'm just going to jump right into it. I have a tutor for my science class that I really like. He tutors me once a week and we get along great. I flirt with him a lot and I'm pretty sure that he flirts back. He's only five or six years older than me so it's not completely ridiculous to think that we could have a relationship. The only problem is that he's a teacher. He's not my teacher and he doesn't even teach at my school. He teaches at another school in my county. I don't really know the rules on that sort of thing. Would trying to start a relationship with him be bad or is he fair game?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): When I was in graduate school I taught freshman classes as part of my assistantship, so the age difference was similiar. We also staffed a general tutoring room, and I definitely flirted back with some of the cute girls I tutored there. Most of the girls were over 18, so it wasn't quite as complicated, and there were no rules about dating someone not taking your class.
This guy probably does like you. He will not make a move, because that would be kind of creepy. If the tutoring is through some program, he might be considered in the same position as a teacher, so could get in trouble dating you. If he does a lot of tutoring, you are almost certainly not the only girl who wears skimpy clothes or lets him see her nipples down her shirt. Lots of girls your age have pretty bodies, and he isn't going to be overwhelmed just by that. But if there is a real connection between the two of you that you think will last beyond your high school years, go for it.
It would probably not be very responsible for either of you to do more than build a friendship until you graduate. But you can plan to do more after, if you are both interested and patient.
Pick a date a couple of weeks after your graduation, say June 18, 2011 or 2012 or whatever. Ask him what he is doing on that date. He won't know. Who knows what they are doing a year in advance? Tell him you would like him to take you out to dinner to celebrate your graduation. Smile. If he accepts, there is a promise of sorts. You will know he likes you, and you will have communicated your understanding of the underlying issues, indicating maturity. In the meantime you can get to know each other better in clearly appropriate ways, and you can still enjoy innocent flirting.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 It could be the start of a great relationship with him .As long as you don't do it openly while being a student and don't get pregnant by him , it should be O.K.
As a student , you should concentrate on your studies and let nothing comes in between you and your studies. It could be a distraction and affects your studies.
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reader, nlieu279 +, writes (24 March 2010):
 First, are you sure he is single? Second, how long has you guys been knowing each other? Third, besides "pretty sure he flirts back," are there any other signs such as care about you more than just a student, or seems to have a lot interests in you. If your answers are yes then I don't see why a problem except... Well, if you are at least 18, I would say go for it since you would be graduated soon. If you are 17, I guess you two can hold it off till you graduate from your high school. Just a precausion because I do not want to see him get fired for being unprofessional :)
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