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41-50,
*ellaflor77
writes:I was dating a guy two years ago. We were together for one year. One day unexpectedly I received a job offer to work abroad for one year. The opportunity was so good that I took it. My boyfriend wanted me to stay, but did not tell me. He said before I left that I must come back. I told him that I would come back.We did not keep in contact while I was abroad due to some misunderstandings. I did not have his contact information because he has a job where he has many secretaries and one of them was supposed to give me his e-mail, but she didn´t. So these people around him sabbotaged my efforts to get in touch. It was the same when I came back, his secretaries pretended that they never knew me. When we were together he would call me every day, so I did not need his contact information. However, he must be thinking that I on purpose did not contact him. If I want to contact him now, for example, I can only see him at conferences or public places like that, I still don´t have his phone number. It took me longer than expected to come back to my country, because I still had work to do. It took me one year and a half to go back. When I came my ex-boyfriend was angry and ignoring me. He looked at me as if I was invisible, but he still said hello, and asked for my number. However, he did not call me. He called me later on when I talked to one of his friends, but our conversation was only job related. Last time I saw him he was in a better mood, he flirted with me, but I still can´t get him to call me, and every time I try to see him I feel like a fool, but I still love him. That is why I still try to see him. He is 47, and I am 32. He is divorced long time ago. I don´t know if he is dating someone else. He is very good looking. When we were dating he would call me every day, sometimes twice a day. So based on what I said, do you think I still have a chance with him, or is this a lost cause? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2010): Here are 5 simple steps to get your ex boyfriend back
Remember the key to these steps is to not look desperate and make your ex boyfriend subconsciously attracted to you
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 He should give you his private line . It is unfair on your side. It means that he has downgraded your status to an ordinary man in the street.
In which case, you can only wait for his call. Calling him would lower your dignity and self worth.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 If you're in a relationship with someone you should be able to contact them at any point.
I couldn't deal with being with someone and having no means of being able to contact them, that seems very unfair to me, I accept people have to contact him through someone else but surely a girlfriend doesn't fall into that catagory.
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reader, bellaflor77 +, writes (22 March 2010):
bellaflor77 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I need to add one more detail. My ex-boyfriend is a public figure. I guess that is why he would call me through his secretaries. He would know how to contact me, but I could only contact him through another person. Don´t you think that is unfear?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (22 March 2010):
You would need to find out where he stands by asking him for a date. You can then find out if he is still interested in you or not.
Give him another chance.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (22 March 2010):
You said you don't have contact details for him and blame this on his secretaries but yet you've seen him since and given him your number so why in that moment did you not then make an effort to get his as well?
You left and before you went you said you'd stay in contact but never got any contact details to do so, surely when you state you'll contact someone you would make sure you have those details if not you get them.
You was the one that left and you was the one that while away didn't contact so I'm not really surprised he's not then jumping to contact you when you didn't all that time you was away for what ever reason he is just seeing you didn't bother to.
You can't expect to come back and give him your number and him to instantly slip back into calling you daily like he did before.
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