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writes:Ok, I'm a 17 year old girl, soon to be 18, and I tend to find myself attracted to men in their late 20s and early 30s. My whole life I've been told if I date a man so much older, then when I get into a relationship with a man my own age, it will really screw with my head, but men my age don't seem to attract my attention at all. Not physically or mentally. I have not dated anyone as of yet, I tend to just keep to myself, but I am beginning to really find myself mingling more with these older men, and wanting to make a relationship out of it. I am really stuck and don't know what to do. Can anybody help me? Any advice on this subject would and will be most appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): I wouldn't be worried, in todays world age doesn't matter! It's the heart that counts, how you feel about the person, not what they look like or how old they are or their gender. There aren't any rules when it comes to love. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 6 months with quite a large age gap between us. He's 45 and I'm 19, BUT we're perfectly happy! Sure we had some doubters amoungst my family but that was to be expected and it quickly passed as age gaps between spouses is common in my family (gran was married at 16 to grandad who was 35). So if you feel happy and comfortable then go for it!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Age is just a figure and boys mature later than girls. When you are in love, it is not the age that counts but the maturity level that connects you both .
You can flow with each other because you can communicate and understand each other better on your levels.
Love can transcends all barriers . There are no rules which says that you cannot fall in love with an older man.
Don't get boxed in by some arbitrary rules which says that it is wrong or inappropriate.
Times are different and new social practices have overtaken those old ones.
If you are happy and contented, nothing else matters.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I wouldn't worry about it. So you like older men, so did my sister. She hooked up with a 28 year old when she was like 15 or 16. You know what she's 22 now and he's going on 34, there still together and they have a nice life together.
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reader, JGSM  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Hey!
I am in the same situation as you are. Sins I was a little girl I have always liked older men. Always, as long as I can remember. And I am very "old" in mind, that's why my friends are all 20+. I am a very mature and responsible person, and I would never ever date a guy who are in my age, doubtful if a 20 year old would be good to. But we can not judge people after their age, just look at yourself. But yes alot of guys are very immature and that's not attractive. And then again older mens appearance attract me alot so I understand when you say that young guys aren't attractive physically. What I can say is that try not to think about it that much. I almost lost my mind. You will find someone, someone older or in your own age. Just trust your gut. And learn from your own experiences.
I am now seeing an older man, like 13 years older than me. He is still a little immature, but we are a perfect couple and we are in the same place in life. We are going on a trip soon, to see beautiful places in our world. He doesn't want's to have children right now, either do I as I am very young. What am trying to say is that when it's right you'll know.
Good Luck
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (21 March 2010):
Its very normal for you to feel this way. You are going to be 18 and you will be able to see older men if you chose to do so. Are you feeling guilty? or ? you are going to be an adult. PM if need anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): If you want maturity then you don't have to look to older men to find it. There are mature teenage boys. They're not really that rare at all.
But when push comes to shove, that's not really what most teenage girls want. They're really more excited about the idea & image & privileges of dating an older man. The mental changes he has undergone with time are not what interests them, despite all the girls' claims to the contrary.
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