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writes:i met this girl at a street dance in my town. and i found out we went to the same school. we started hanging out about a week later. its been almost a year now and we hang out almost every day. she is now my best friend. and she says im her best friend. but ive developed strong feelings for her. just recently i told her how i felt. she said she just sees me as a great friend and doesnt have any other feelings. is there any way to make her change her mind? ive never liked anyone this much before.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 She's told you that she just sees you as a friend, trust me, move on, date other people. She's not going to just suddenly become attracted to you and you don't want to have an unrequited infatuation when someone else comes along.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Only time will change her opinions of you. You are far from her ideals and you can only be her best friends for now.
In time , she may change her perceptions of you when she realizes that her ideals are too lofty or something magical happens between you two.
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reader, bthenurse +, writes (23 March 2010):
Make her see you as someone she could spend her life with. Show her you would make a good partner. Actions speak louder than words. Date in front of her let her see what she is missing out on. Might be painful, but effective.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (23 March 2010):
It's hard... but if she's not feeling it, you need to move on and not apply pressure when she's TOLD you that she doesn't see you as BF material. In the future, you need to decide with in a few days is a girl is GF material or not, and if so do NOT become her best friend & hang out. Women tend to put guys in one of three boxes: 1. Pass, zero interest 2. Close friend and confidant (no sex happening there, and if you do, the relationship is over) and 3. BF material.
As a close friend, she's very likely dropped her guard and shared with you a heck of a lot more about herself than she would a BF. These relationships can be great, but many guys (myself included) develop strong attractions to these women.
If she's saying she's not feeling it... move on and find a new focus for romance.
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