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writes:This is complicated. I have known this guy for bit but never really hung out all that often, just raced together a couple of times. We got together a while ago and I knew he was married so thought nothing of it. Turns out he truly just needed someone to talk to. His wife has convinced him that having an open relationship was o.k. Well, he hates it ... no kidding. Well, he came over to hang out and we watched a movie, I would be remiss if I didn't say that I wanted something to happen. He left but I didn't want him too and I could tell he didn't want to ether, which is probably why he left. Probably a good thing.Ever since, I can't stop thinking about him. My question is: should I say something next time I see him or just continue to be his friend and leave it at that. He is just beginning to realize that his marriage is over and should probably let him deal with that before I pounce on him, eh?Thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 March 2010):
Don't get involved. Married men will say a lot of things to get their way, and you don't want to end up hurt.
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reader, Myrrh +, writes (23 March 2010):
 He sounds as if he is still very commited to his wife and its surprising, that hes only now starting to realise his marriage is over! He may have been in denial until now. As it hits him and he prepares to move on, she might decide to stop seeing other men and keep him instead. It can happen.
You stand to be a victim if you arent careful. At the very best it would be a rebound relationship. If hes caring more about what shes up to, than having an affair himself, it speaks volumes about his feelings for her. It could take him a long time to get over her. Let them sort things out properly before you become too attached to him or you might get hurt.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 Don't fish in troubled waters. It won't do you any good. Getting involved with a married man is out of bounds, even if his marriage is rotten like hell.
Stear clear of the boundaries. Make sure you don't cross them. You will make things complicated for him.
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