Help before I go bonkers
Q. hi! i've been with this girl ,A, for the past 2 years, i even got into her parents good books and we were as close as family. and when things began to get sour i made the ultimate mistake and ended the relationship. a month later, i was out with...
A. 29 October 2007: Hi
I am a big believer in what will be will be, but you moved on very quickly for someone that supposedly made a mistake and still loved someone. Although it proved you couldnt manage it i guess. I find it hard to believe it took a month to real... (read in full...)
I'm in love w/ my best friend's bf and he loves me, too, but I'm also dating his best friend! I'm so confused!
Q. My bestfreinds boyfriend is sooo gorgeous and i like him but not up until last week did i find out he liked me too but the problem is, is that im going out with his bestfreind and he is going out with my bestfriend no one knows about our secret in ...
A. 18 October 2007: Hi
Way too much complication going on in your life!
Why do you like all the complications and drama?
Friends guys are waaaaaaay off limits! You dont want to be labelled as a femme fetale!
I feel for you. You are in a bit of a predicament. Its... (read in full...)
Why am I a drinking wreck! Why do still I love abusive, lying cheating partner?
Q. My (currently ex) partner of 7 yrs has cheated on me for 1st 6mths with the mistress his wife was divorcing him for, has constantly lied, stolen 30k from his mum, been on many sex internet sites with his picture replied to all women i put on to ...
A. 18 October 2007: Chin up. He just knew how to play you.
There are guys that are very good at it.
But you know deep down, you can be one step ahead of someone like that.
Cut all ties and do the cold turkey. Its not pleasant.
But you know its for the best.
C xxx... (read in full...)
Help! I am addicted to him
Q. me and my ex split 2 and a half months ago we were together for 7 years, he said he wanted to be single. i was totally devaststed. i found out he started seeing another girl 2 weeks later. he says he still loves me but doesnt want a serious ...
A. 18 October 2007: Hi
Hes used the oldest excuse in the book. They always seem to miraculously end up with someone real quick though. I mean, lets face it, its not easy meeting decent people is it these days.
The relationship run its course, it got to the classic ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden, my fiance started giving me gifts. Should I feel suspicious or just accept them and not worry?
Q. Hey. My fiance rarely got me gifts unless if it would be be an occassion like a birthday, christmas, vday. I told him that it would be nice that hecan just evenn come home with flowers once in a while (so one can even have it on the tablein the livi...
A. 18 October 2007: Hi
Just accept the gifts and not worry. Not yet anyway.
I have a suspicious mind too hehe but its not enough proof to label him trouble just yet.
He will slip up in the future if hes up to no good.
He might just be realising how he took you a bi... (read in full...)
Why am I a drinking wreck! Why do still I love abusive, lying cheating partner?
Q. My (currently ex) partner of 7 yrs has cheated on me for 1st 6mths with the mistress his wife was divorcing him for, has constantly lied, stolen 30k from his mum, been on many sex internet sites with his picture replied to all women i put on to ...
A. 18 October 2007: Hi
Your a drinking wreck because you're trying to blot out this nightmare bloke!
Grrrrr makes me mad that someone can have so little respect for people!
You wont be a drinking wreck forever, go to your docs and have a chat with them. You might ev... (read in full...)
My left breast hurts really bad, it's almost time for my period. No family history of breast cancer. What could it be?
Q. My left breast hurts really bad,it's almost time for my period,but i feel like my breast should hurt evenly.I can feel sort of a collection of knots,no family history of breast cancer what so ever and I'm really young. Are there any kind of other ...
A. 18 October 2007: I get that but on the right side. Had it years, scares the life outta me and never have got it checked but my sister gets the same thing always has done too.
But i would say go get it checked.
Breasts are bumpy until your 30's so you just need to ... (read in full...)
Am confused and feel used
Q. I have just been dating a guy that i like a lot we have been together for 2 months,he has a girlfriend. But lately things have turned sour he lied to me saying he is sick he can't come to see me then i called him only to find out he is with his ...
A. 18 October 2007: Hi
Hey feel sorry for his woman. Shes stuck with him, you're not.
Stop being a femme fetale. Stay away from other womens men. Whatever happened to female solidarity.
Good luck.
*rollseyes*
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Are are doomed to be better if we broke up and lived our separate lives?
Q. I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years. She has a young daughter (aged 8) who I look after as if she was my own. Earlier this year I discovered that she had been texting, e-mailing, etc several men. The messages were suggestive (by them and her) an...
A. 17 October 2007: Hi
Blimey sounds very similar to what im going through at the moment.
As it happens i split from someone about the same sort of time as you, maybe a couple of weeks earlier.
We too are on talking terms and have spent some time together wit... (read in full...)
I am not coping with this break up well
Q. Help me please, because I really don't think I am capable of dealing with this situation. I really love this guy and he loves me. We broke up 4 weeks ago. The reason for the breakup was basically, his alcoholism. We've been together for mor...
A. 17 October 2007: Hi
Its still early days to say he is 'cured' In fact its doubtful he will ever be cured. Just learn to deal with it. And i still say he needs a little longer to be able to prove to you that he can stick with this.
Is it too difficult for you to b... (read in full...)
Should I go for the contraceptive pill or the implant? What are pros/cons?
Q. i need help in what contraception i should take. i cant decide whether the pill or an implant. i'm going to the doctor soon to see but i would like to know what people would grade at the best with personal use from before....
A. 17 October 2007: Hi
I have used both and to be honest i cant use either anymore.
The pill i wont use because im over 35, and the implant i tried for nearly a year and had such horrendous mood swings and regular spotting that i had to get it taken out in the end.... (read in full...)
Why are men inclined to cheat on their wives?
Q. Hi, can you please send me a scientific analyses why men are incline to cheat on their wives? I'm am a man of 41yrs of age and have been married for 10yrs.I neither drink nor smoke but i like the company of nice woman.even if i'm joking the girls ar...
A. 17 October 2007: Depends on yours, or anyones definition of the word good hubby i guess. Good hubby and boys will be boys are contradictions to me so are hard pushed to look good in the same sentence imo hehe.
Interesting question and answers though.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
My husband is a chronic cheater
Q. I am trying to figure out what is going on with men.My husband of 9 years, has been cheating on me. I caught him, he didnt confess. For about a year he was doing web cam dates (spent about $4500)then the past 6 months paid escorts(about 40 different ...
A. 15 October 2007: Hi
In my opinion yes you are.
He is addicted to sex and the thrill of sex with different people.
You could give it to him 5 times a day, 7 days a week and it wouldnt fullfil his craving.
If he hasnt even started to get help from a therapist, you... (read in full...)
Am I ready to date again?
Q. My ex split up with me just over 3 months ago. I really am missing her dearly. She has made it very clear that we won't get back together, and while I think it is she that is making a big mistake, I feel lousy. These past few months have been...
A. 15 October 2007: I agree with baby duck. You are not ready. It would be a rebound. Me and my ex have tried this with different people and we split about a similar time ago as you. We are still good mates though and can talk about things, and we both know we aren't ... (read in full...)
I'm a scheming little minx - should I break up with my ex?
Q. i met this guy 8 months ago.i liked him,so i said i give it a try.we were a couple for 6 months.he loved me,but i didn't share his feelings.i just liked him.so,our relationship was all about me!we broke up and then get it on again so many times,just ...
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
Yes i think you should. Let the guy move on and find someone that will actually love him back.
All sounds like a lot of drama. I guess a certain amount of that happens when you are young.
But forget the crush too. He is with someone else... (read in full...)
Who should make the first move - and how?
Q. Hi everyone I got such nice responses last time, I need some more advice and feel I can turn to you guys so here goes. I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 weeks and he told me for the first time on saturday that he is a virgin and while I ...
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
You two need to talk, until you can do that i wouldnt say either of you are ready to take the plunge.
6 weeks isnt long to be with someone and especially for him, his first time is best to be special and the best relationships start by getting ... (read in full...)
I'm between a rock and a hard place. Do I stay or do I go?
Q. Ive been back with my boyfriend for a month now. we was together 6 weeks but we split up and have recently bk together. i took him back as he said wed try make it work this time and because i love him to pieces. but i feel like shit when im with him...
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
You would miss him for a while, then move on. This way you are getting wound up indefinately. I know what i would rather. And what i did. And yes, it sucks for a while but time really is a great healer!
If someone isnt giving you what you want... (read in full...)
He's married with kids - what should I do?
Q. hi..ive got a man who is married with kids.. but i love him so much. im much jealous everytime he is with his family.. i feel he doesnt love me anymore.. dearcupid i really love this guy. what should i do... this situation is really hurting me....
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
What a nightmare!
I dont really think there is anything anyone can say. Its not gonna get any easier thats for sure.
Of course you will feel jealous of his family, so why sell yourself that short?
Surely its more favourable to have someone tha... (read in full...)
He wants to hang out. How can I make him take some responsibility?
Q. What if you have been with someone for three years and you are always fighting about him wanting to hang out. You told him you wanted to go separate ways but he wants to stay together and he tells you he should be able to come and go as he please ...
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
If he is still saying he doesnt wanna commit after 3 yrs i would walk away.
If he has been honest and said this is how it is, you make your choices and decide to either put up with it or walk.
You cant make him commit, but he shouldnt be ... (read in full...)
Why are men inclined to cheat on their wives?
Q. Hi, can you please send me a scientific analyses why men are incline to cheat on their wives? I'm am a man of 41yrs of age and have been married for 10yrs.I neither drink nor smoke but i like the company of nice woman.even if i'm joking the girls ar...
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
Extracted from i village...
They have wandering eyes. They're obsessed with Page 3. They come home from one-too-many late nights at the 'office' with lipstick on their collars. To whatever degree, men do cheat and they do it more than women. I... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my husband that I once had an affair during our marriage?
Q. Hi. Is it good to confess to my husband that I once had an affair with another man during our married life? Or should I just forget it? I stopped it, anyway....
A. 11 October 2007: Hi
With something that happened a while ago, i always say, if it means hurting someone, dont do it. I look at it as, would they benefit from knowing the facts? If it was that long ago, i wouldnt tell him.
A quite famous agony aunt here in the Uk p... (read in full...)
Want to be friends with my ex and have my ex husband as a friend with benefits. Am I asking too much?
Q. Hi Would be interested in others opinions on this.. I recently met up with my ex husband, we split 16 yrs ago. We have been having some fun for a few weeks now, and slept together twice. Our kids get on well together. He only split from their mum a...
A. 11 October 2007: Thanks flower girl and eyeswideopen.
I think i will have a chat with my 2 and see if they are confused. They did ask who my ex husband was when we first got back in touch and i explained we are mates, hanging out having fun. They know the rece... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is signing up for online dating services.
Q. What does it mean when your partner signs up to an online dating serice and is looking for females around our age in the state we live in? We live together and he otherwise is very loving and caring towards me. Known him for 7 years and togeth...
A. 8 October 2007: Hi
It means he's looking for someone new. Beat him to it and dump him. No other choice really. Doesnt sound like hes happy and doesnt seem to bothered about talking about whats bothering him, so i would be outta there if i was you.
Good luck.
C... (read in full...)
What do you think about body hair?
Q. I have a rather odd question. Do women generally find body hair unattractive? If so, where? I have wondered this for a long time, but I am too embarrassed to ask my friends or my family, lol. I mostly just want to know what women think about hair...
A. 7 October 2007: I like men to be men. And leave hair alone, apart from on their face and head. Im not too keen on facial hair, unless its a five oclock shadow through not shaving for a day or so. Or long hair. I like the grade 2 look. But i personally like a hairy ... (read in full...)
PMS is ruining my life
Q. Ive got a real problem with p.m.t I no every man out there is thinking oh no! I dont want to feel this way anymore, Ive been to london to a clinic ive tryed so many different vitamins infact I think Ive tryed mostly anything I can get my hands on, ...
A. 7 October 2007: Hi
I had, or have rather, pmt quite bad at times, and my gp gave me diazapam. one a day for 5 days before my period is due, sorted it out by chilling me out. But i was quite bad. Ask your doc about it if it is really bad.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
I am still not really over my ex. It was the best sex ever!
Q. i was in a relationship for a little over a year and we split up. i moved about four hours away but we still talk. she is seeing other people but she says she still is in love with me and it is hard to be with somone when you love somone else. i kno ...
A. 7 October 2007: Hi
Its just too soon. Time really is a good healer! If you had met this recent girl in a few months time, you would be perfectly happy with her! You are still tied up in the ex and only time can get past that. You could meet Claudia Chiffer tomo... (read in full...)
I have an ulcer - what caused it?
Q. I kissed this guy i have liked for ages for the first time yesturday we kissed loads of times but 1 time he inserted his tonge i now have and ulser on my tonge is it becoz of that ? ...
A. 6 October 2007: Hi
Highly unlikely i would of thought.
Most probably too many crisps or salty/vinegary food! Bad timing i would put it down to.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Will this man ever leave his wife for me?
Q. I too am married and dating a married man for more than 2 years. It all started with small conversations which grew into daily conversations. Eventually, our spouses found out (now they have become friends) however, we can't leave each other ...
A. 6 October 2007: Hi
If he hasnt left his wife within a year, he isnt likely to. Although that is a statistical fact, it tends to be quite an acurate one.
I cant believe you both live in this situation for that long to be honest but each to their own n all that.
I... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and he want to still date..but cut down on the time we spend together. Is this normal?
Q. my boyfriend and i are having a baby and we've only been dating 6 months. i got pregnant the first night. Now he says he wants a normal relationship where he has his feedom still, cause hes 21 and im 27. He doesnt want to move in together yet and ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi
It sounds perfectly normal to me what he's saying. You can still be good parents together but not live together. You are still at the getting to know each other stage at the moment. Moving in together could well be a baaaaaaaaad move!
As lo... (read in full...)
He said he doesn't want to rush things..so does he even like me or should I move on?
Q. ok so i have a problem well there is this guy. and i really really care about him. and i think that he cares about me too. He even told my friend that he cares about me.. its just that ive been waiting on him for a long time. weve been talking ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi
If he says hes not ready at the moment, then i would forget about it. If you can just hang out as mates then do that. But DONT sleep with him if you're not getting what you want back from him. Im having a bit of fun with someone at the mome... (read in full...)
Anyone know why a guy wouldn't ejaculate through oral sex?
Q. i just gave my boyfriend a 20 minute bj and he didn't have an orgasm [cum] he told me it felt really good but he was confused that he didn't and i gave him one before and he didn't have an orgasm that time either so me and him are confused why, ...
A. 1 October 2007: Hi
Dont blame yourself thats the main thing. Ive been with a few guys and half will and half wont. If they dont tell you what works for them how will you know. We're not mind readers. The guys that communicate the best were the ones it happened for.... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex. Now she does drugs and binge drinks! What do you think of this email I sent her?
Q. below is a copy of the email i have sent my wife who had come back for a week then left me again for her ex after she did not come home at night.this is hurting me so much sorry if am beening a pain but we have a young kid and all i want is for t...
A. 29 September 2007: Could be true. Could be stringing you a line. Only time will really tell. Better than the other day though isnt it?
C xxx... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex. Now she does drugs and binge drinks! What do you think of this email I sent her?
Q. below is a copy of the email i have sent my wife who had come back for a week then left me again for her ex after she did not come home at night.this is hurting me so much sorry if am beening a pain but we have a young kid and all i want is for t...
A. 28 September 2007: How terrible. So she doesnt have any desire to see her son at the mo but will fight you in court for custody? Thats mad. But you know shes unlikely to get it if she is taking drugs! It must be awful for you at the moment thats for sure.
I dont actu... (read in full...)
He's been giving out his number to others! What should I make of this?
Q. Well I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months. Just spent the last month working out boundaries, like do we want open/closed relationship, etc. About 2 weeks ago we decided together that we would be able to have fun with others in clubs ...
A. 28 September 2007: Hi
I guess if its ok to chat up others in a club, maybe he took it that swapping numbers is similar? I wouldnt be comfortable with it ive got to admit.
But i wouldnt be happy with the chatting other people up in clubs either. But you need to chat ... (read in full...)
I started feeling weak, I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint...
Q. Hi There! I don't know quite how to explain this! But within the last hour, for at least 10 minutes I started feeling weak; I was trembling, my legs felt like jelly, my head feeling really heavy and I felt as though I was going to faint! I'm stil...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi
Could be a panic attack. Go along to the docs and have a word they will give you the once over.
Could be not eating enough too!
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Do you think what I did was cheating?
Q. I have been married for 14 years and a year ago my best friend and I had too much to drink and we kissed for less then 2 minutes(female). I told my husband yesterday and he said I cheated so it's over. Do you think that is cheating?...
A. 26 September 2007: No
Is he looking for an excuse for out?
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
He's been texting another woman b/c he's depressed. He said they've never met, but I feel cheated! Help.
Q. I recently found text messages on my hubbies phone from some one called D, they were signed with a x. I confronted him and he admitted it was from another woman. He is being treated for bad depression and said he only did it to feel good. He sai...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi
Doubt that would be a good idea.
There must of been something wrong for him to do it.
Gotta sit down and talk about it more. Because you have a right to know it all.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Should I let my son's father have contact with his child? I fear he'll mess with our baby's head like he's messed with mine!
Q. Hey, so.. my son is nearly 2months old, hes 1month 18 days, and all of a sudden the father has tryed to get in contact.. he put me through complete hell while i was pregnant with riley (my son) we are still very young, but his actions were really ...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi
Well for Rileys sake i think he should grow up with 2 parents, but its like i just said in another persons question, supervised visits! Your exes mother is another story. But if she is as rough as bags, i wouldnt want my kids round her eith... (read in full...)
My wife left me for her ex. Now she does drugs and binge drinks! What do you think of this email I sent her?
Q. below is a copy of the email i have sent my wife who had come back for a week then left me again for her ex after she did not come home at night.this is hurting me so much sorry if am beening a pain but we have a young kid and all i want is for t...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi
Well i would make sure she never has the little guy on her own thats for sure.
I am extremely anti drugs though. And kids and drugs especially dont mix.My female mate had to get a court order to keep her ex away because he's a druggie.... (read in full...)
He's been texting another woman b/c he's depressed. He said they've never met, but I feel cheated! Help.
Q. I recently found text messages on my hubbies phone from some one called D, they were signed with a x. I confronted him and he admitted it was from another woman. He is being treated for bad depression and said he only did it to feel good. He sai...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi
How awful. Well i guess he wanted the confidence boost. But he needs to focus on you 2 and put in some effort. Its normal for things to go a bit pear shaped after some yrs but you have to make the effort. And that means making the effort with... (read in full...)
He said he wanted to move slower in our sex life, but wants it every night! Does this make sense??
Q. He told me he wanted to slow down on sex! He said he wanted it to mean more and I have not been pressureing him. But now it seems every night he wants to make love to me. Does this make sense?? ...
A. 26 September 2007: Hi
He obviously just cant resist you! That would do my head in probably though. I would be thinking hes only in it for the sex. Is nice now n then to just cuddle and go to sleep!
Well, in my opinion anyway.If its the begining of your relation... (read in full...)
Are are doomed to be better if we broke up and lived our separate lives?
Q. I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years. She has a young daughter (aged 8) who I look after as if she was my own. Earlier this year I discovered that she had been texting, e-mailing, etc several men. The messages were suggestive (by them and her) an...
A. 12 August 2007: Hi
I persnally think the only way you will stand any chance of getting through this as a couple is for joint counselling.
The lone counselling didnt help her did it.
Doesnt sound like she wants to be having sex with anyone else, just the need for... (read in full...)
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