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female
age
41-50,
*indyloo
writes:I had been seeing this lad for 2 months in which time he admitted he had strong feelings for me and phoned and texted me everyday. A month ago he told me that his ex had been back in touch and that she wanted to give their relationship another go, he has decided to give it another go with her. He told me it was a hard decision as other than the fact that he has known her longer there isn't much between us and that if she hadn't come back on the scene he'd still be with me. My problem is he still texts me and calls me every day and wants to see me all the time. What is he playing at, my friends seem to think there isn't an ex as whenever he is free he sees me so when does he see her? And that he is just frightened of getting into a relationship with me as he was badly hurt in the past when his fiancee cheated on him. However every so often he says to me that he doesn't want to lead me on and asks if I know where I stand ie he's still with his girlfriend. His behaviour suggests we're in a relationship but he is still maintaining where not!! What does he want from me?? Does he want to be with me or not??
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reader, pavel38 +, writes (30 August 2007):
He wants to have his cake and eat it, and you need to make it clear that you're not prepared to be his cake. No-one deserves to be treated like that. Perhaps give him a taste of his own medecine - next time he rings up wanting to meet up tell him that as you're not 'together' you're going on a date...his reaction should give you an insight into whether he wants to get back together properly.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Hi
He is playing at playing to be honest.
You would both be better off losing the guy in my pinion.
Why are you leaving the choices up to him? I would make the choice for him and tell him to get lost.
You know you deserve better than that.
Having someone tell you if their ex hadnt come back on the scene he would still be with you? whats that all about? You being second place? Shhesh. No way.
Be true to yourself and when you find someone that likes to be with one girl, and one girl only, you will wonder what the hell you were doing with that bozo.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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female
reader, sexi  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Hi, i dont think you should waste your precious time on a guy ike that. He wants to have the best of both worlds. You should go out and meet other people instead of allowing this guy to hold you down. You dont want to be in the situation that you are;when he is feel to text or call then he would do so.What does he expect you do while his attention is with his ex?You cant sit around forever.Take a stand and you start calling the shots. Tell him that you have decided to be in a stable relationship and if that is not what he is going to give you then you are not prepared to be stringed along and you are going to get going.
Good Luck,mail me if you wanna talk
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female
reader, sexi +, writes (30 August 2007):
Hi, i dont think you should waste your precious time on a guy ike that. He wants to have the best of both worlds. You should go out and meet other people instead of allowing this guy to hold you down. You dont want to be in the situation that you are;when he is feel to text or call then he would do so.What does he expect you do while his attention is with his ex?You cant sit around forever.Take a stand and you start calling the shots. Tell him that you have decided to be in a stable relationship and if that is not what he is going to give you then you are not prepared to be stringed along and you are going to get going.
Good Luck,mail me if you wanna talk
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I must also add that 3 times I have spoken to him and tried to finish our relationship (whatever it is) but he still continues to call and text and wants to meet up?
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