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anonymous
writes:Hi, I hope you can help!I'm 20 and I was recently joking with my friend that's also a girl that I would give her oral sex and have sex with her because she has never had it and I said that she is missing out on it! She's never had any sexual experience so I said I would do it for her!! I didn't expect it but she actually agreed and made me promise that I would do it! I thought she was joking so when we met up I didn't do it obviously! Well, the next day she told me she was very disappointed that I didn't keep my promise and she seemed genuinely upset! Now the problem here is I've been secretly in love with her for over a year! I've been in turmoil as to whether I should tell her or not.... I've been getting all sort of signs from her (we sleep in the same bed naked when she stays over and we cuddle and touch each other and every time we are drunk we kiss, (a lot)! Do you think it's worth telling her how I feel? Do you think she will feel the same??thanx for your help in advance xxx
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reader, cuninglingwist  +, writes (31 August 2007):
I have had a number of relationships with bifemales, I find them more trusting and honest and openminded than strait females who hide their real sensuality due to religious guilt.I also believe a bifemale is the most loyal female a man can have as a mate because she likes doing the same as he does with a female so their is never any insane jelousy, nothing to hide,no lies, no deception even when she enjoys a girl by herself.In your case if you have sensual feelings for her you should keep your promis and do her! because right now you have caused her to be sexualy frustrated and disapointed, if she is like you she,ll love it, on the other hand she may try it and reject it! but I doubt it,she will proberbly become insatable, (are you prepared for this) most sensualy honest girls love the touch smell and taste of another female as much as a man, and yes it will feel like love, but its realy happy wonderful (LUST) your close friendship will last a lifetime, you will always be their for each other even if you marry openminded guys,( I hope you do!) Importent! Do not get involved with closed mined guys, no matter how good looking he is, they will call it cheating and become intimidated and call you whores.But baby please do not become lesbians, its a very lonely life of lost oportunities plus they fight and are more jelous and violent than hetro relationships.Go for it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): I had the same thing when i was 19. I got really drunk and told my friend. She sad she felt the same and we were in a relationship for over a year.
I would definately say TELL HER she probably feels the same but is worried same as you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Sleep with her first. She obviously finds you sexually attracted and maybe AFTER the sex you can tell her how you feel. Or maybe not as things may develop between you two after the sex.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 I would suggest that you have sex first, and in the heat of the moment, tell her. Telling her beforehand might scare her off if she sees herself as only curious and not fully bi.
If you tell her in the heat of the moment, and later she starts to react standoffish, you can distence yourself from having told her.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim just so scared that if she doesnt like me the same way it will completely destroy our friendship! i dont want her to hate me! i know it looks as though she is flirting but maybe she didnt intend her behaviour to be percieved like that!
its just eating me up inside because i love her sooooo much! she means the world to me and i want nothing more than to be with her....but i fear that i may not have her at all if she runs a mile. i dont wanna get my heart broken-but its difficult because i dont think i can carry on living like this when all i want to do is kiss her and hold her everytime i see her! ive kept it a secret such a long time-is it too late to reveal now after all this time?
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reader, duce00 +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Good God girl! what are you waiting for? She is almost throwing herself at you!
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Hi
Yep tell her.
Whats the alternative? You keep shtum and maybe she will eventually say something to you, but she might not and you're both treading on egg shells. The fact you have gone that far would be enough for me to speak to her about it.
There is obviously something attraction wise there.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, Ileana +, writes (30 August 2007):
 Tell her.Ileanaxx
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