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writes:I was seeing my boyfriend for two years. We broke up and it's been nearly two years since that. We have catch up quite regularly but the weekend just gone we slept together, quite a lot! And acted all couply all weekend, going out for lunch, holding hands etc. Then on sunday night we talked about our situation and decided that we just leave it at that for now, and if something develops awesome, but if not we keep being friends. The problem is, I've never stopped being in love with him, and while I'm pretty sure he loves me too I'm not sure if he's ready to be in any relationship at the moment, let alone one with us. It could get very complicated. I just want to know peoples advice and experiences on this, as I feel this is the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with, my I don't know if I can cope with getting my heart broken like that again?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (3 September 2007):
 Hi Emma
Its hard to say wether he wants you back, but my bet is hes just using you for sex.
I split from someone 3 months ago now and that was mostly because of issues with his ex.
He has since slept with his ex and says its just sex. And that blokes can sleep with women without having feelings for them. He goes out, drinks then wants a shag basically.
I think its quite sad because his ex has always wanted him back and all shes getting is a ride. Men can be quite cruel. Women too at times!
The reason you arent getting over him is because you have never had enough distance. Especially if you have slept with him again.
I split from someone over 3 years ago now and it did take me a good couple of years to get over him, so it can take some people quite some time. Depends who it is etc.
The one i split from 3 months ago i didnt fall for anyway, so apart from anger towards him for lying for a year, and being angry with myself for sticking with him a year, i dont miss him and wouldnt go near him in any way, let alone sexually.
If you really think there might be a chance with your ex, then hang on in there and see if he comes to you, but i wouldnt ever reckon someone should sleep with an ex. Thats a sure fire way to get hurt if you have feelings for them and if he wants back he wont be expectng you to do that without making some sort of commitment to the fact.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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