Do you think I should give my cheating ex another chance?
Q. I have written on here three time already but wanted to update you. My ex (broke up 7 months now) really wants me back and I am re-considering. He cheated on me whilst I was pregnant but they didnt have sex until we broke up and there relationship ...
A. 13 December 2007: Hi
Sorry to hear things didnt work out. If you can stay on good terms for the kids though thats good.
Although i think he should of waited a while yet before introducing the kids to someone new. And should of spoken to you about it first, thats a ... (read in full...)
My bf is still communicating with his ex, and is upset about my spying. I've also heard he's been married once, which he denies. Do I leave him?
Q. My fiance has been hiding his cell phone from me but picks mine and reads my messages frequently. I recently read messages from his cell phone and realised that he was stil communicating with his ex girlfriend who is already married. This really ...
A. 4 December 2007: Hi
Hes possibly just a really secretive guy. I cant get my head round those sort of personalities. Ive experienced them myself. I am like an open book me. Maybe too open, but i prefer it that way and couldnt be any different if i wanted to anyw... (read in full...)
Is it best to stay in touch with an ex or break contact totally??
Q. Do you think it's best to keep in touch with an ex in a recently broken relationship? I wrote a lengthy post a short while ago (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/are-are-doomed-to-be-better-if-we.html) Should I be keeping in touch with my ex, send...
A. 4 December 2007: Sorry to hear that. It sucks.
Yeh i think its like giving up smoking, if you even have just one now n then, when it comes to stopping completely again, its every bit as bad as the last time.
The thing about her moving on, i doubt shes ready fo... (read in full...)
How can a woman love, yet cheat time after time?
Q. I am wondering if someone could enlighten me? Would be nice to get female answers. Why would a woman cheat time after time,go through the same denials and say the same things,yet swear her love,accuse her boyfriend of cheating,show violent ...
A. 26 November 2007: Hi
Mega low self esteem thats why. Addicted to reassurance from the opisite sex. And wrongly sees sex as that reassurance.
Counselling is needed.
C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Can pre-cum get you pregant??
Q. I want to really know.. can you get pregant by pre cum? ...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi
Yes.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
Office affair!
Q. Hi - I am married but getting very close to a colleague at work. We are very flirty and becoming quite tactile. I want to take things further (she is married too). I feel we will become 'fuck buddies' soon. We get on fantastically we...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi
Very happy in our marriages? I doubt it. Or the question wouldnt even arise. If you get into something with her, you can bet your life shes not happy in her marriage and when you make it clear further down the line that shes only a shag, then... (read in full...)
He's a serial cheater, but he's scared his wife will find out, should I tell his wife?
Q. A bit confused and could use help from some of the great agony aunts on here. I almost started an affair with an attractive and married man I work with but stopped myself as the word is that he is a bit of a player and I would say he is. He has just ...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi
I wouldnt get involved myself. Apart from making sure your female work colleague knows he is married. The balls in her court then isnt it.
His missus probably does know hes a serial adulterer. Most women (and men) do. My aunt used to cheat le... (read in full...)
How long to know if I'm pregnant
Q. i had sex with my boyfriend around like 7pm yesterday. and when he was done he said the condom broke and now i'm gna be pregnant cuz he busted. how long until i know if i really am or not??...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi
To be safe go get the morning after pill. Levonelle. Free from the docs, they cant charge for contraception on prescription. Or buy it for about 25 pounds. Oh..just noticed your in the States. Might be different there. The morning after pill can ... (read in full...)
I get loads of attention from other girls but I really want my ex back...
Q. Hi All, Well what an absolute nightmare. I’ve just ended a 15 month relationship. Everything was great at first but for the last 6 months or so we’ve been having petty rows pretty regularly. We never make up following a row, although I always t...
A. 23 November 2007: Hi
Thats a shame. Although you dont know for sure she met someone before you split i take it?
You would think that if she has been cheated on herself she wouldnt do it to others though wouldnt you.
If she did cheat then you are well out of it.
... (read in full...)
I get loads of attention from other girls but I really want my ex back...
Q. Hi All, Well what an absolute nightmare. I’ve just ended a 15 month relationship. Everything was great at first but for the last 6 months or so we’ve been having petty rows pretty regularly. We never make up following a row, although I always t...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi
My guess is she did want the relationship as much as you but was as fed up with the arguing as much as you too!
Ive been in a similar situ myself before and she really does need to get the insecurity sorted out.
Sometimes it takes losing someo... (read in full...)
How to end this relatioonship?
Q. Uh oh, another friends with benefits question... Long story short. I cheated on my ex, "A" at a time when I was unhappy about the relationship. Naturally, he left me, (a little over two years ago) and quickly rebounded and had a relation...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi
Why wouldnt he ever forgive you then? There are many relationships that last a long time after one has cheated.
My uncle cheated on his wife, left her for 3 years to be with someone else. After those 3 years he got back with my aunty. That was... (read in full...)
Should I confess all about my cheating?
Q. Im engaged to be married to the most wonderful man in the world he is my soul mate and i love him more than anything and anyone in the world. Unfortunately i was very immature when we first got together and for the first 6 months or so of our ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi
Oooops, thats a tricky one. Well golden rule for me is always...will telling someone something thats in the past make their life better? If not then dont do it. If its in the past and you have no intention of doing it again, it should stay ther... (read in full...)
We're texting but she's void of emotion. What should I do?
Q. My ex and I recently split up. I love her more than anything and I miss her so much. I've tried to move on but I can't. We're talking as friends via text now but it's killing me. I told her that we can't be friends and she said that she didn't want ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi
Im sure she still cares for you. Why else would she not want to lose touch completely? Maybe she saw you as a good friend as well as lover when you were an item? In which case, her wanting to stay friends makes sense along with the lack of emot... (read in full...)
Why do I get mad at my bf's ex?
Q. i had this feeling that i want to get mad at my boyfriend's exgirlfriend though she had done nothing wrong on us... but the thoughts of maybe she still love my man keeps on hunting me.. what should I do with this?...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi
It depends if she is hassling him? both of you? Or generally being a nusiance. If not then i wouldnt worry.
You haven't given many details so i dont know. I am friends with exes and my guy is friends with his (sometimes you have to be because ... (read in full...)
I miss her so much it hurts! Should I call her or should I wait to not ruin the work of getting over her?
Q. Hey all my original post is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-ex-has-been-giving-me-the-runaround.html So i've now started a new job since uni graduation, I am living in a new location, new house with new people. The thing ...
A. 18 November 2007: If you are going to be seeing each other in the future you never know what might happen. When i split from someone 4 months ago i never thought for a minute i would have anything to do with him again to be honest, but we get on great now. We went ... (read in full...)
I miss her so much it hurts! Should I call her or should I wait to not ruin the work of getting over her?
Q. Hey all my original post is here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-ex-has-been-giving-me-the-runaround.html So i've now started a new job since uni graduation, I am living in a new location, new house with new people. The thing ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi
She is sure gonna be thinking of you. But i wouldn't contact her. If its done and dusted you need to do the cold turkey. You have done well so far and it will get easier.
Make no mistake about her thnking of you though. She will be doing as... (read in full...)
I am very worried, why hasn't he called me back?
Q. I went for a party and met this cute guy. We exchanged numbers. It was after 3 weeks that we actually spoke .We went out one weekend and it was then he told me his age, 35 and I am 18 turning 19, I look more matured than my age, he looks much ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi
Could just be that he has had second thoughts. Maybe he thinks the age gap is a tad too big.
Im sure you're gorgeous, but if he is a cool guy, in his 30's you can bet your bottom dollar that he is looking for a bit more than looks and feeling ... (read in full...)
How long should it generally take for a guy to orgasm during oral sex?
Q. just curious, but how long do you think a guy should last during oral sex.. im not planning to do it but i just want to know....
A. 17 November 2007: Hi
Its like asking how long a piece of string is.
All guys are different and ocasionally guys NEVER cum during oral.
It really varies. I wouldnt even be able to say how long on average based on past experience. It just varies way too much.
C xxx... (read in full...)
I'm not used to dating and need your help to sort out what his messages might mean!!
Q. This is a really stupid question but I've been worrying so just want some reassurance. I split up with my boyfriend of 7 years a couple of weeks ago (was a long time coming) though we are still living together and will do so until after Christmas ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi
Sounds like it!
Also sounds fine to me, you asking a guy out to dinner. More women should take the lead. Dont get if you dont ask ey!
Dont be flat out txting him though. But get the balance right. You will know what i mean.
Living with t... (read in full...)
She was my babysitter.
Q. My questions are regarding an older woman. She is eleven years older than me. Perhaps some background would be helpful. The woman we are talking about I have known for a very long time. She was first my babysitter and then she helped me with ...
A. 17 November 2007: Hi
You have both posted a question about each other. Maybe talking to each other would be more ideal than seeing what the other has put on here. And what others say. Afterall the best judge of whats best for you is yourselves.
11 yrs is nothing ... (read in full...)
Contraceptive implant...
Q. Hi to all those wonderful aunts, I am after a bit of advice with regards to having the contraceptive implant, i have read up about it and spoke with the doctor, also i am booked in at the clinic to have this done in a couple of weeks. but befor...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi
I had one for 9 months. I had it taken out the begining of this year. I did have a few problems with mood swings and bled for quite a while although not heavily.
Would love to have kept it in longer as it was so convenient ive gotta be honest. ... (read in full...)
Does my best mate fancy me?
Q. Help.! Recently i keep thinking about my best guy mate, i dont know what to make of this, as sometimes i think i realy like him as more than a friend while other times i think "yeh we are just good mates". We hang around together almost everyday...
A. 10 November 2007: Hi
He might well fancy you but doesnt know you fancy him and doesnt want to spoil your friendship by implicating anything more yet! Simple as that. I would play it cool and see what happens. If you are mates, you will still see each other so what... (read in full...)
How can I lure my husband to have sex with me?
Q. i am a married woman, but my husband is having an affair with other women and he's not ready to accept me as wife . and even don't talk to me. he hates me. there have been times i have lured my husband sexually but he does not respond to me. i have ...
A. 10 November 2007: Hi
Leave him!
Hes having affairs with other women?
I dont know what else to say really.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
He gets too excited too quickly - what can I do?
Q. hey, me and my boyfriend have started having sex recently but i just don't seem to be enjoying it as much as when we do "other" things. its not as if he cant do it for me but he told me he gets to excited to quickly! what should i do ?...
A. 10 November 2007: Hi
Do you mean he suffers from prem ej? You didnt explain too much.
There are tecniques for prem ej you can do. Usually its a psychological thing. He probably really likes you and puts a lot of pressure on himself to perform which is sending ... (read in full...)
I'm 16... can I buy a vibrator? Does "everyone" own one?
Q. i am sixteen years old and want to use a vibrator but i am embarressed abouit buying one. can i just walk into a shop and buy one? and does everyone use them?...
A. 10 November 2007: Hi
Good queston. As far as i know you can buy one at 16 yes. I dont see why not. I guess it depends where you get one from.
I have one but dont use it to be honest. But i have never owned a decent one, so maybe haven't experienced a good one!
If... (read in full...)
Why is he doing this? I'm giving him the divorce
Q. I dont get this, after my husband cheated on me. I gave him the divorce papers and then he started to beg me to not break up. Why things like this happen? I don't get why would you cheat and then when the person you are is leaving you beg them to ...
A. 10 November 2007: Hi
I agree with Richard. He didnt think past the thrill.
Its down to you now if you forgive him, or try to, and manage to salvage this marriage. Its a tough decision.
Good luck.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Is he only sticking around for sex?
Q. An old aquaintance and I recently got back in touch, and we have gone out every weekend for the past three weeks. We hit it off, and there was obviously chemistry, and in the heat of the moment, we had sex that first night and have continued to each ...
A. 10 November 2007: Yep the best fish usually are gay or married lol
I guess atleast he has been honest. And you can always be real good mates. Just mates without sex!
Hope it works out.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
We're married with kids; I threatened to leave if he doesn't stop drinking. Please help.
Q. We have been married for 14 years and have 2 girls aged 13 and 16 years. My husband works hard and is a good provider, our problem is the drink, he never used to drink and drive but lately he has taken to having a few pints with mates after a day's ...
A. 8 November 2007: Hi
I wouldnt be happy if my guy was at the pub after work everynight. My ex started doing that, but he drank every night anyway, even at home, still does. But i made it clear to him i dont want a guy that has to go to the pub after work every day.... (read in full...)
I'm still friends with my ex, but my boyfriend is jealous, what can I do?
Q. I am friends with my ex-fiance of 9 years and I am in a serious relationship now. But when it comes to talking or seein my ex, my boyfriend gets so furious and upset and it is costing our relationship! What should I do? ...
A. 7 November 2007: Hi
Difficult one.
On the one hand a current boyfriend will always take priority with me but on the other hand i wont be told i cant be in touch with exes or anyone. If i was suppose to be with an ex i would be, so i would tell him to put up or sh... (read in full...)
Is he only sticking around for sex?
Q. An old aquaintance and I recently got back in touch, and we have gone out every weekend for the past three weeks. We hit it off, and there was obviously chemistry, and in the heat of the moment, we had sex that first night and have continued to each ...
A. 6 November 2007: Hi
Give most guys the chance and they will take the sex without commitment.
I recently went away just as mates with an ex and we ended up having sex once but i wasnt having that happening on a regular basis. He tries telling me hes not just aft... (read in full...)
When he won my heart over...he disappeared.
Q. I was introduced to a guy by another one who was has been attracted to me for months. As soon as I met this new guy, we both felt mutual attraction and the feelings were so just so intense. He tried to know everything about me but I was not that ...
A. 3 November 2007: t... (read in full...)
Can I find out if I'm pregant this month or will I have to wait??
Q. I am trying to become pregnant and i no i'm ovulating because i have clear ovulation fluid coming out and my husband finally gave in yesterday and came inside me. Is there any chances of knowing if i'm pregnant this month or will i have to wait??...
A. 3 November 2007: Hi
Gotta wait until the day you are due im afraid. And buy Clear blue (if you are in the Uk)
Anything before that, will give you a false reading.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel so lost after breaking up?
Q. OK, last night I broke up with my bf of 4.5 yrs, we have'nt really been happy for the last yr or so as we lost our spark and both of us did nothing to help our relationship until it was too late. Last night, I sat him down and told him we are ...
A. 31 October 2007: Hi
I could be way off mark here but is there any possibility that you were looking for a reaction from him. Some reassurance? When you ended it, did you want him to ask you not to?
It is normal to wonder if you did the right thing. We have all been... (read in full...)
Was he being serious, or just drunk?
Q. Hi There, I am very unhappy right now. I have been seeing a guy but whenever it gets to us being official he does not really wanna discuss it. We are both 26. It has been going on about 4 mths. He called me the other week after a few drinks - t...
A. 31 October 2007: Hi
Personally i wouldn't read too much into anything anyone says when they are drunk.
Some people speak the truth, others exagerate and become all lovey dovey. Hard to say which one someones going to be.
But if they have to be drunk to say thing... (read in full...)
I find her offer extremely tempting, but I have some concerns about it
Q. Hi i have been given the come on by a mates wife, he recently had a affair and she found out. now she want to try and see what its like with someone else. she proposed that we should get together and try it. we have done some kissing and pe...
A. 31 October 2007: Hi
Start thinking with your top head not the little head.
This is a major risk and can only end in tears.
You're being used by this woman to pay back her cheating hubby. Its not rocket science. And it might sound ideal to you, sex with no comm... (read in full...)
Should I take him back?
Q. My ex and I were together for over a year before he had to move back home for work. We were so in love and very happy. I knew though that him and hie ex were still in contact over the phone but thought nothing of it as I tried to deal with the fact ...
A. 31 October 2007: Hi
Tricky one. On the one hand it screams of a guy that doesn't actually know what he wants, and on the other hand, he might well have come to a final decision and know he wants you finally.
Only you can decide whether its a wise move to take a g... (read in full...)
Has my penis replaced my brain?
Q. My relationships keep failing. I meet up with lots of girls, and we tend to have sex within the first couple of weeks. This carrys on for a while then my woman starts critising me, so I try to do what she say, so she still have horny sex with me. I ...
A. 31 October 2007: Hi
Less sex and more getting to know someone first would be a wise move. Just my opinion there.
Sounds like you are trying too hard to please maybe.
If you get to know someone first, sex shouldnt be such a major feature, not in the early days. ... (read in full...)
Is 'phone sex' cheating?
Q. Is phone sex cheating? me and my bf have been going out for six months. i found out he had pics of naked woman and he had talk to girls on the phone. I think it is cheating but im not sure....
A. 31 October 2007: Hi
Well if you are looking for opinions, i would say in mine, yes, it is.
Any kinda of stuff like that going on is deceptive.
I certainly wouldn't be hanging around waiting for someone up to that kinda stuff to grow up.
Hope that helps a bit.
C ... (read in full...)
Is it best to stay in touch with an ex or break contact totally??
Q. Do you think it's best to keep in touch with an ex in a recently broken relationship? I wrote a lengthy post a short while ago (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/are-are-doomed-to-be-better-if-we.html) Should I be keeping in touch with my ex, send...
A. 29 October 2007: Hi Sounds like you both still have unfinished business in terms of feelings. Tricky situation for you. You could try and stay friends but if you have feelings for her, seeing her get with other guys will be a killer. And the same for her. How ar... (read in full...)
I'm truthful, he lies. I don't understand him
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 8 months ago and have remained close friends. We both date other people, but still hang out alone and end up sleeping at eachother's houses a few times a week. I am truthful with him about what I do, he lies a lot. ...
A. 29 October 2007: I agree with Peoriaman. That book is brilliant to read. Its not easy seeing a guy (or girl) whos automatic reaction is to lie, but if you are only seeing each other, friends w5th benefits type thing, then you have no right to know what he is doing... (read in full...)
Help before I go bonkers
Q. hi! i've been with this girl ,A, for the past 2 years, i even got into her parents good books and we were as close as family. and when things began to get sour i made the ultimate mistake and ended the relationship. a month later, i was out with...
A. 29 October 2007: Hi
I am a big believer in what will be will be, but you moved on very quickly for someone that supposedly made a mistake and still loved someone. Although it proved you couldnt manage it i guess. I find it hard to believe it took a month to real... (read in full...)
Do you think I should give my cheating ex another chance?
Q. I have written on here three time already but wanted to update you. My ex (broke up 7 months now) really wants me back and I am re-considering. He cheated on me whilst I was pregnant but they didnt have sex until we broke up and there relationship ...
A. 24 September 2007: Hi
This is a real tricky one because different circumstances would make for a different answer. But the fact you are both young, the fact that you have children and the fact that you have feelings for him still (im assuming cuz i didnt spot that... (read in full...)
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