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writes:I'm a female and I'm 18 and a virgin. I was recently on craigslist because i want to find some one to have sex with me. I'm sick of being a virgin cause I'm always horny and i just can't take it anymore. So is it wrong to lose your virginity to a stranger?
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reader, Lorenn.  +, writes (8 January 2010):
My friend lost her virginity to a stranger and she said that she would much rather have lost it that way than to someone she loves, simply because she felt she wasn't strong enough to deal with the heartbreak afterwards. However i'm still a virgin. and i think that you should wait for the right time. With someone you can trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): A few weeks back i had a one night stand with a man i didn't know very well at all and lost my viriginity - it hurt, i cried and all i wanted after in the darkness was a cuddle. It has taken me a while to accept what i had done because i felt so guilty for not choosing the right guy or having the best first time story to tell - i wish i hadn't done it, i wish i'd waited. I can't confide in anyone for fear of being judged and thought less of. I know what its like to feel like you are the last virgin on the planet and you are horney horney horney but its not all its cracked up to be, i would suggest if you just want to do it - then do it with someone you care about or have some sort of attachment to, atleast then they are more likely to be slow and tender with you. Also, i ended having to get the complete STI STD work done afterwards, and now waiting to get tested for HIV ... it is not something you want, trust me. Thankfully i am clean thus far - not everyone is so lucky.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): I have read that there are girls auctioning their virginity online and paying for college. Since you don't care about yours..
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reader, mss anonymous +, writes (8 January 2010):
No it's not smart to lose it with a stranger. Do you have any close male friends who you know want to have sex with you and you have a mutual agreement, sex with no strings attached, and that's all it would be. Dont go on craigslist honey have you not heard stories of men posting pictures of other men that are not them and having young naive girls meet up with them and who knows what happens??? Be careful for what you are doing and remember that your only a virgin once, whichever way you choose to lose it is on you, but it's better to at least have a sex partner and not some random unknown guy who lays on you. The first time is not all that enjoyable in fact depending on the size can be extremely painful. It takes a few tries until you even get the satisfaction you need.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 January 2010):
 One other thing. Whether you surrender your virginity to a "stranger" or to someone you know better, your first experiences will unlikely result in much sexual satisfaction. In other words, it will not be some magic cure for your desires. Most young men have no idea how to really "do" a woman well, and you will probably be so apprehensive and nervous that you will get nothing much out of it.
In my opinion, that is why young women should establish at least a fairly meaningful relationship first, preferably with an experienced older man with talents. Submit first only to cunnilingus, which will please you better in the beginning anyway, if he knows what he is doing. Losing your virginity should be a gradual process with someone you know fairly well, and who cares about you. Just my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): In my home town which is in the middle of the country right in the Bible Belt, a man advertised his car for sale on Craigslist. Two men came to look at his car and killed him.My dear what you are proposing for yourself is very self destructive.Do you honestly think that you are the only 18 year old girl on the planet that is not still a virgin with sexual urges?Losing your virginity for that reason is simply skanky, and this is from a person who has morals, and they are lacking in our country but that doesn't make what you are wanting to do cool or modern or make you an adult.You oviously do not have good judgement. And that is because of your youth and your brain development. Studies have shown that the frontal lobes of the brain are not fully developed until around age 25, and that is the place in the brain that is responsible for decision making and judgement...so realize that you may not have given this the proper analysis or processed your feelings and weighed them up with consequences.Have you prepared yourself for having sex? Are you on some form of birth control? Condoms break. Have you had vacinnes for HPV which cause cervical and anal cancers and condoms do not protect against those. Do you know that STD's can be contracted from having Oral Sex? Do you care that by giving away your virginity to some stranger may be a reason that some young man in the future who may be the love of your life, won't be able to get that thought out of his mind?There are other ways to take care of your sexual urges besides having sex so being sick of it is not an excuse. What are you going to do after that one night stand, have sex with the whole football team? Your reasoning just doesn't make sense.Better to wait until you have a boyfriend or a fiance who really cares about you then to have animalistic sex that will be a let down your first time by the way.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 January 2010):
In my opinion, you should be more cautious than to use CraigsList. Why not spend a few evenings at a local club, or most anywhere similar, and allow either young or older men to approach you. Be friendly and possibly flirtatious. At least you can judge a level of attraction and permit some communication before taking such an important step. But exercise caution there as well.
A good boyfriend would be a better choice following at least a few dates. But I certainly understand the frustration. And I remember the young women I once enjoyed in my youth. At least I was very nice to them, appreciated our experiences, and usually offered more friendship. I do not think you would find that on CraigsList. Dating sites are another possibility.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 January 2010):
 Nothing I suppose but I wouldn't use Craiglist. You may not only lose your virginity, you could lose your life. Why not pick someone you know a little bit. Picking random strangers you know nothing about, is not something a smart woman does these days. You could be playing right into the hands of a real psycho. Please be more careful than that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2010): To be completely honest,
It's really up to you. Everyone else will have different opinions, some will say yes, others nay, and some will say you shouldn't have sex until marriage. Personally, I don't think there's any reason why you can't have a little fun, as long as you're safe about it! Just be careful, and make sure it's what YOU want.
Peace and Love,
Kodi
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