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writes: Hi this is all a little weird for me, but I need some help. My older brother and I are really close, since we were little. But recently we have been talking and innocnetly I told him about a dream I had about him and thought he would just call me an idoit or something. But then he told me that he has been haveing dreams about me and showing my privet places. We were talking and then he asked me if I wanted to 'mess around' I kept saying know but he keeps asking. And he told me it was a complament, and what not, but I still say no. I don't know what to do. I promised him I wouldn't tell. And if I stop talking to him, he told me he would take his own life, help..please? Reply to this Question
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reader, Me_117  +, writes (4 January 2010):
I had a experience like this with my female cousin but we were much younger, like four years old. We were feeling each others parts and discovering about the oposite sex. That was just innocent curiosity, we had no sexual needs then. But the conversations I share with her now are always tense and awkward. I think your brother is just a typical horny teenage boy that casually thought it would be ok to ask this from you because he has not been properly informed on sexual education. He is now embarassed and doesn't want to back out. My advise would be to keep saying no and don't bring up the subject. Eventually it will blow over and he'll probably regret saying it at all in the first place.
There is nothing wrong with your brother, this is just a part of growing up. However, this doesn't mean that what he is doing is right.
Good luck on resolving the problem :)
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reader, Summershine +, writes (2 January 2010):
He wants you to be in trouble ((Probably)). Tell your mom. This is not ok. If you keep this up he might sneak and try to "Look and mess around". He needs help
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reader, bitch +, writes (1 January 2010):
Stay away from him as much as possible and tell somebody as soon as possible. Don't talk to him anymore. This is obviously very wrong and you both should not be having these conversations at all. This is incest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys that helped, and he is not meantly ill and he is not a creep nor jeark. And he didn't want to have sex he just wanted to do 'touchy touchy feely feely' I will keep telling him no becuase I am scared that it would get out of hand and it just doesn't feel right to me. We haven't been talking about it anymore. I love him as my bother and he loves me as a sister, and would do anything to help me. But I think his hormons got the best of him or something like that. Thanks for the help everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): He is emotionally ill- get him help. tell a teacher, friend or parent. He can't, and right now may be too ill to be able to know it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 December 2009):
I think a tape recorder would be a good idea. Messing around with a sibling is really wrong, so don't take it and keep saying no. If after that he continues, record what he says then take it to your parents.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Keep saying NO!!! It is very, very wrong, and if he continues, tell your parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): i think you should tell. He is manipulating you by telling you he is going to kill himself if you tell. he is counting on your silence so he can do whatever he wants...and you being silent helps he continue his plan. Have you ever thought what will happen if you did fool around with him? he will keep asking for more and eventually it will get out of hand. DON'T GIVE HIM THE TIME OF DAY...DON'T DO IT!!!it will turn into a never ending cycle of lies and deceit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): You are in a tough situation. You probably feel like you can't go to your parents either. First, it is not right to mess around with a sibling. There is the chance of pregnancy even if messing around isn't truly in the form of sex. A child made from a brother and a sister will likely be very deformed. Do you have someone at your school you can talk to, a close teacher, guidance counselor? Your brother may or may not be suicidal or really feel like he would kill himself if you don't do what he wants. He needs someone to talk to, but he may not know it or know how. The best thing you can do is find an adult you can trust and have them help you with this situation. A local hospital may also have a counselor you can trust. DON'T let your brother convince you need to fool around. If your brother seriously threatens to kill himself call 911. Saying you are going to kill your self is not normal and he needs help. Hang in there.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (31 December 2009):
 How old is this clown, TELLLLLLL!
So what hell probably off him self but hes a little freak its his sister today then the neighbors dog or 4 yr old tomorrow if the dog is lucky.
LOok dont doooo it, Im a christian a terrible one but i believe in Jesus and im thinking he would want me to tell you to tell.
But at last maybe theres hope, your bro might be salvageable
tell him you wont do anything with him if he ever ask you again you will tell and if hes dumb enough to kill himself over it well thats just bs hes not a very good brother to put you in a sistuation like this.
Hey sis have sex with me or i will kill my self does that really work ever im serious cause if that works well would it work on a chick your not related to cause in my book thats the only way it counts well maybe a fourth cousin i never met would be kool.
Any ways your bro might need proffesional help he needs to get a hang on his situation if he pesters you again tell.
but give him one last shot hell you can even tell him to go in his room and masterbate he wont kno the difference between that and some real tang untill he actually gets some, and if he masterbates enough he wont want any,
DONT HAVE SEX FOOL AROUND or let him touch you in any way exept maybe a hi five but i dont kno make him wash his hands first matter fact just stick to fist bumps with this sicko.
I think hes a jerk for putting you in this situtation and i dont like the guy i would slap him if i knew him. hes a creeep now you be a good girl and stop telling him your little fantasies if God wanted us to share all the sick things we dream up our eyes would double as wide acreen projectors, YOu kno theres reasons why i never tell any body about that one time in band camp.
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