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writes:Lila here~ One of the biggest complaints I get from women (and men) in long term relationships is that the sex has become either stale or non-existent. There are lots of reasons for this: busy lives, children, work related travel, and the fact that the more intimately you know someone, the harder you have to work to maintain an erotic edge.I thought I'd give some tips to spicing up your sex life in a few easy steps. Guys, you should know that one thing that makes your woman shy about revealing her freakiness is that she's worried it'll be too much for you. I know, it's a silly fear. Men have a much higher tolerance for wild sex than most women, but still she might be worried. This means that you might need to make the first move, or at least initiate some conversations about some of the freaky stuff you really enjoy.Here are some tips:1. Schedule some play time. I know it doesn't feel sexy to schedule sexual play, but if it's a priority for you, you need to make sure you can fit it into your busy life. Many years ago my partner and I designated Sunday as oral day. Somehow, mysteriously, our friends found out about it. Instead of being embarrassing, it gave us an easy out if we were invited somewhere on a Sunday and we didn't want to attend.2. Give her some hints about what you like. You might try getting help from your local sex shop for suggestions on tools or lotions that would help. We love Adam and Eve in Worcester, and if you're not near Worcester, they have an online store and other franchises as well. For example, maybe you'd like to designate Sunday as Oral Day. You could buy some oralicious cream and ask her to pretend she's eating a strawberry ice cream cone.3. Know that she is probably hundreds, if not thousands of times more critical about her body than you are (especially if you've been together for a long time). Low lights might help her feel more confident, as will any and all positive, specific comments about what you like about her body.4. Lead by example. Do you want her to talk dirty to you? Show her what you mean. If you're afraid she'll be really shy, you don't even have to use sexually explicit words. A simple, "I like it when you touch me like that" will do. I often say, I don't know what you e doing to me, but please don't stop!5. It's usually easier to initiate something new in the moment, rather than to talk about it in advance. She'll be more likely to be sexually adventurous once you've revved up her motor a little!6. Start small. Buy a Screaming O cock ring, not a butt plug. Unless you already know she likes anal sex, of course. Over time, you can work your way up to more adventurous things.Above all, have fun with it! You both might not love everything you try, but I'll bet you come up with a lot of things you do like.
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reader, bootydoctors +, writes (3 February 2010):
bootydoctors is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi Veronika,Yeah, it must be the particular guys you've been dating. But if that's the case for you, you can just follow our tips and apply them to the guys- that works!Pinkee
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reader, veronika  +, writes (3 February 2010):
 Why is it just the woman who needs to unleash her "inner freak"? I have to say, most of the guys I've dated have been mainly conservative in the bedroom!
I don't know whether it's just because they were older than me, or what, but sometimes men need to get a little freaky as well...
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reader, bootydoctors +, writes (27 January 2010):
bootydoctors is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi DoubleM,
Yes, I have to agree, sometimes there just nothing better than good old-fashioned love making complete with oral!
Pinkee
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Must agree that is all good advice, but it doesn't have to be too wild or freaky to be totally satisfying. Loving intercourse and mutual oral satisfaction can extremely erotic and blissful.
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