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*llyGee
writes:My boyfriend and i attempted sex for the first time last night. we were both confident about it and it felt right, but we couldn't manage to get him inside of me. it didnt hurt but we couldn't get him in the vagina. am i too small? or is it normal? i got upset because we wanted it to be special and it felt like it was ruined. i just want to know if it's normal, and if not, what should i do to loosen up a bit? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): If he didn't get in entirely you both are still virgins. (I assume you both were before)
No love lost. Slow down... You are too tense and anxious. Focus on indirect methods (sexual flirting throughout the day be it in person, text, on phone so you are proper horny) and direct methods (slower getting down to it. longer foreplay. perhaps him fingering you from one finger to two before you try. )
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 No problems my friend, It's like the old adage; "How do I get to Canegie Hall?"- Practice,practice! Never give up sometimes, failure is fun, enjoy the experiences!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): if you use lube it might lossen you up and it might work , me and my boyfriend some time use lube it makes you vignarer bigger and easier see is it works :)
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (3 October 2010):
 You are totally normal. For me, it took me and my fella an entire MONTH to get him to fit in. So you're not a freak of nature. What it will take is patience, a good attitude and a smile. Don't worry about it getting in... the more you worry, the more you tense up and the harder it will be to get victory. Know this - you are only, at most 17. You have a good 6-7 decades to have successful sex. This is not urgent.
I hope you are having smart, safe sex. If you know you're safe, you'll relax. Go slow. You can use your hands or get on top to have a little more control over things. Eventually you will relax and your body will adjust. You aren't too small!! So, remember that these awkward moments will be great memories someday. Enjoy the scenery.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2010): Try again but don’t be discouraged by this. It happens. Just be opened minded and don’t feel like it’s anyone’s fault is all.
Foreplay helps get you both in the mood, and if you’re still finding it hard try a lubricant.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 October 2010):
Hi there. You haven't mentioned it, but are you a virgin?
If you are, well then the hymen might be hard to penetrate at the moment.
It might take a couple of attempts.
If your boyfriend didn't have a full erection, that would make it impossible also.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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