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writes:Hello, I'm a 22 year old female. I have been with my husband for almost 6 years now. We have two little girls 4 and 2 and a half. We love them and eachother very much, words can explain it. But i often find myself jealous. For example i don't like to watch tv with him or its always hard to go shopping with him cause i feel when he looks at girls in his mind hes wishing i looked like that or he could be with them. But its funny cause I know hes not thinking that but yet i tell myself that. I often find myself trying to think and figure out what makes me this way. and all i can think of is i've gotten like this since I've gained alot of weight. Sex is great, we make love and do all kinds of stuff but i just cant stop myself from being jealous.. I dont know what else to see... Any advice?
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Yes i do agree with Dorothy. Do exercises, work out more. It brings good health and good shape. And therefor you'll get your confidence back. On the other hand, do something for yourself like enjoying time out with your female friends like shopping for coffee, Dine out sometimes with your girls is nice too. Once you believe there're guys would have a look at you when you walk out, then you will stop worrying if your hubby looks at any girls or not. It'll bring you the balance in mind.
Good luck and stay in peace of mind dear!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (27 September 2010):
Hi there. I believe your main problem is that you don't believe in yourself. You live your life comparing yourself to others almost constantly.
True beauty comes from within. This beauty comes from having confidence in yourself. We are all equal. No one person is any better than anyone else.
Knowing that you are already perfect just as you are. Don't live your life believing that you must look a certain way. Gain some independence and do things that bring you joy. Do some nice things for yourself - go and see friends and go and for coffee and cake with them from time to time. Go see a nice movie. Start some hobbies to make your life more interesting.
If you are concerned about your weight, a great way to keep fit is to go for walks. It's a great way to relax, and it's great for the mind as well. If you can try to walk at least 3 times a week for about 30 minutes, you will start to feel fantastic.
It will also help you to sleep well at night. You will feel generally very relaxed and at peace with the world. And guess what, just as a by-product, your weight will probably start to go down. All your clothes will start to get loose on you. All this is just an added bonus. You will also have a lot more energy.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): Hey there!
Yes, the pressure in a open enviornment where men can freely look at women and also vice versa, can yield some issues. Im not gonna lie, if im with a woman and see her looking at a man in public, I wanna rip off his dangle. Yet, I catch myself doing the same thing and looking. This is hypocritical. Perhaps its natural to look and be attracted. To me, at the end of the day, Ive come to realize that if the woman is in my arms and not anyone else's I need not be jealous, instead those men should be jealous of me ;p. I think youre feeling is normal and sounds like you have a good relationship. Hope this helped :)
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