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writes:i met this girl freshan year at first it started as a crush and well it started to grow we did things as if we were a couple but i never officially asked her to be my gf,,,time passed by and i was juss an idiot and still never did,,,sophmore year came and i saw her makin out with sum guy and she had seen me, that same day she like told me how sorry she was n she was crying telling me she didnt knnow why she did it and on n on, at hat time i juss didnt wanna talk to her, i stopped talkin to her for a couple months. and one skool day we walk pass each other and i juss like get sad and member like the stuff and feelings ihad for her, that day i text her n she told me she started to get teary eyed after she saw me, we started to tlk but it juss wasnt the same anymore. junior year i started to realize i really do like her and i grew a love forher, first time i tild her i love her was on vday junior year. since then i havent stopeeed loving her. senior year is now and not too long ago we hing out and started holding hands and juss huging kinda like we use to, and well bout 2 weeks ago i asked her to homecoming and she saud yes, my question is that like i juss wanna know how she feels cuz like now she hardly ever has time to hang out, and well im like seriously in love with her, ive been through love before her so i have an idea if what love is and well i do lover her, just like im not sure how i cn=an prove it to her cuz she hardly ever has time ti hang out, any advice or comments? thanks
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (4 October 2010):
Hi there. Often the only approach is to be straightforward - upfront and honest. Right from the outset.
She can surely see that you really like her, although she might not know how much.
Perhaps you could walk up to her at some time during the day when you are both about to go to another class, and make sure it's when she isn't talking to her girlfriends or any other guy.
Just say Hi, and ask her how she's been, and what's been happening in her life lately. Don't try to ask her any personal questions (about who she might be seeing), that only makes things awkward for both of you. Just keep it light and cheerful and stay calm.
Once you have this conversation, how about asking her out on some kind of date - not dinner or anything serious - maybe go to see a nice movie (one she likes - you'll have to ask her which one), and then stop by a cafe on your way home and have a coffee together. The cafe will be a great opportunity to have a heart to heart chat.
The point I am trying to make here is, if you make this move to -
(1) Get talking to her.
AND
(2) Ask her out,
The great thing is you are definitely showing her that you are prepared to make an effort to try to win her heart. If you do nothing, but just see her with this other guy, all you are really doing then is watching the whole situation from afar, and giving up on trying. You will never win her heart if you do nothing. It's going to take a little effort.
You feel a bit nervous about this, because you have seen her with this other guy, which is understandable. Because you feel so strongly towards her, it is worth the effort to get to know her better.
If you don't try (because you think you have no chance), you will never get to know what could have been.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
The longer you leave it, the more likely the chance will slip away from you. Don't wait too long.
When you do talk to her, show her you are interested and treat her with love and respect. Make sure also, that you are genuinely interested in her as a person and what she likes and dislikes etc. Before you can move onto being a boyfriend/girlfriend type situation, you first have to become good friends with a mutual respect and total acceptance of each other as well. Those two things are important in any relationship.
Believe in yourself and that you deserve to have the best in life. Know that you are already worthy, and totally accept yourself for who you are - unconditionally.
I sincerely hope this is helpful to you. Take care and best wishes.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 If you took it one step further and let her know how you feel then she may find more time to hang out with you. It sounds to me like she likes you a lot as she is still around after all this time. May be she is waiting for you to make the first move on this. Ask her if she would consider being your girlfriend and see what answer y ou get.
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